"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jeaolusy...doesn't make sense

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There was a girl who was interested in me. We hung out a lot in a larger group, and went out a few times over the last four months. I wouldn't say I was playing games with her, but just testing the waters to see if I even wanted to get involved with her. She was attractive, but just didn't do enough for me to take it anywhere physically. She'd follow me around like a puppy...when we went out with a group, we'd be the last ones there after everyone left. The last couple times she wanted to do something with me I sort of blew her off. I just didn't feel like hanging out with her.

I'm amazed I held her interest for four months. But, now she's clinging to another guy in the same way as she did with me before. I was expecting that to happen, and though l shouldn't care since I basically nexted her, deep inside it pisses me off...almost like I feel I own her attention. Stupid I know, but amazing how when a woman you reject moves on to some other guy it really gets to you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by insomniac
There was a girl who was interested in me. We hung out a lot in a larger group, and went out a few times over the last four months. I wouldn't say I was playing games with her, but just testing the waters to see if I even wanted to get involved with her. She was attractive, but just didn't do enough for me to take it anywhere physically. She'd follow me around like a puppy...when we went out with a group, we'd be the last ones there after everyone left.
You didn't rejected her _fully_ if you hang out with her that much of course you would feel a bit jealous.
That is pretty simple. Why - does it bother you?
 

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Alright, I admit there is something there that is enough to upset me. I just got back from a party where this group hangs out..and they showed up together. Apparantly he's more into her than I ever was as they are now showing up at things as a couple, apparantly. Yeah, that could have been me in his place, but I passed on her. Still, it bothers me. Both of us did a great job tonight pretending the other didn't exist.

This girl is maybe a 6, could be an 8 if she made herself up better and didn't act so weird. That's mainly why I passed on her. But still, when I see her and that other guy, it gets to me. The attention given to me is now directed at someone else. Proof that I need to get more women in my life so that stuff like this wouldn't even bother me.

This is more a lesson to me in how women think...she rejects you, but when she sees you with someone else it can drive her crazy.
 

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Originally posted by insomniac
This is more a lesson to me in how women think...she rejects you, but when she sees you with someone else it can drive her crazy.
I naturally feels this and I never meet with my ex-s.
Dont hang out where she does, pretend she doens't exist for you anymore...it will help.
 
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