"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jealousy Among Wings

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I'm going to rant for a little bit. I met a new wing this weekend. He seems like a cool dude, and is a friend of a friend. My original wing talked him up, how great he was, how laidback he was, etc. Then I met him in person. He's a good looking, pretty laidback guy. As far as his personality, however, things were different. This new guy just AMOG'ed the living crap out of me the entire night. He would walk into my set, try to completely take over, literally walking between me and the girls. When I tried to be sociable with him, he would not talk back. He completely ignored me. In fact, his first question for me was: "how many women have you banged?" I thought this was kind of an odd way of putting it. Whenever I told him of some of my past adventures, he would sneer: "dude, that sounds like bullsh*t to me."

I was very confused about what was going on. I spoke to him again the next day, just the two of us hanging out at the mall. I was dressed like ****. Gym clothes, hadn't shaved, etc. He seemed much more comfortable around me.

I think what happened is, he was freaking out because I was peacocking and drawing so much female attention, it kicked in an automatic jealousy/competitiveness streak.

I think the lesson to be drawn is this: if you are high value, you have to show some humility and dlv yourself a little bit just to get other people to feel comfortable around you, even guys.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Someone Much cooler said:
I wouldn't **** with that man, sounds like a hater
I agree. Don't sarge with c@ckblock and playa haters!
 

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The strange thing is, he is a good looking kid and has pretty good success picking up women. You would think that jealousy or intimidation would not be issues. Strange.
 

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This explains a lot. A lot of the times in the past, I've wondered, why is this girl or why is this guy staring at me for no reason? They seem to be upset, not smiling, but staring repeatedly. It's a slight intimidation factor on their part, even though I have done nothing to them. I can usually win people over by being super-nice and showering other people with compliments and entertaining them! :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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