"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jealousy Among Wings

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I'm going to rant for a little bit. I met a new wing this weekend. He seems like a cool dude, and is a friend of a friend. My original wing talked him up, how great he was, how laidback he was, etc. Then I met him in person. He's a good looking, pretty laidback guy. As far as his personality, however, things were different. This new guy just AMOG'ed the living crap out of me the entire night. He would walk into my set, try to completely take over, literally walking between me and the girls. When I tried to be sociable with him, he would not talk back. He completely ignored me. In fact, his first question for me was: "how many women have you banged?" I thought this was kind of an odd way of putting it. Whenever I told him of some of my past adventures, he would sneer: "dude, that sounds like bullsh*t to me."

I was very confused about what was going on. I spoke to him again the next day, just the two of us hanging out at the mall. I was dressed like ****. Gym clothes, hadn't shaved, etc. He seemed much more comfortable around me.

I think what happened is, he was freaking out because I was peacocking and drawing so much female attention, it kicked in an automatic jealousy/competitiveness streak.

I think the lesson to be drawn is this: if you are high value, you have to show some humility and dlv yourself a little bit just to get other people to feel comfortable around you, even guys.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Someone Much cooler said:
I wouldn't **** with that man, sounds like a hater
I agree. Don't sarge with c@ckblock and playa haters!
 

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The strange thing is, he is a good looking kid and has pretty good success picking up women. You would think that jealousy or intimidation would not be issues. Strange.
 

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This explains a lot. A lot of the times in the past, I've wondered, why is this girl or why is this guy staring at me for no reason? They seem to be upset, not smiling, but staring repeatedly. It's a slight intimidation factor on their part, even though I have done nothing to them. I can usually win people over by being super-nice and showering other people with compliments and entertaining them! :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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