Jayer,
Your story reminds me alot of my own 50 approaches which I've just done. At a nightclub of course you can tack on another 10 to 15, so I've done about 52 daygame + 30 nightgame, plus about 120 directions openers just to get used to talking to strangers. I never f-closed or number closed those girls, but I got 8-10 of them to the point where I could have probably number closed them (i.e. real interest and rapport). I turned down an ONS another time from a girl at a bar. These 8 girls I call my "bloody fingers", I dont know why, just because, looking back, they really seemed to like me, but I didnt number close because I was dedicated to working on the art of approaching, and sometimes I was scared. In hindsight I really regret it, especially as some of them were baking hot, but exactly in those cases I was too scared.
I'll just tell you what conclusions I reached.
My conclusion is that, there is no way to overcome a lack of real rapport, and a woman's interest is visible within 2 minutes max. I even think that a woman's interest is visible within 30 seconds. Thats just my opinion but another guy who does LOTS of cold approaches (with success) said the same thing(grinder). Either they "see" something in you or not, IMO.
The game (as I know it) is so massively hit or miss, that it can be depressing unless you fine-tune your mindset to avoid emotional highs and lows. I'm doing some other stuff right now, but when I jump back in, I'm going to do more screening from initial vibe to see if I really genuinely think the chick is somewhat compatible with me.
My wisdom (and I have received copious advice from other experienced guys now) is to always go by felt rapport, i.e. you know, in your stomach, if its working or not. If it clicks or not. Senior Fingers told me
to look for a "connection", and he's really right, because if you aren't feeling
that then neither is she, in all likelihood.
Yeah, apparently you need to hit up about 15-20 girls for a date or lay. Thats day game. I can understand why night game might be more of a flake factory.
Your high number-closing ratio and high flaking ratio confirms what another guy (SexPDX/TrickyNick) said, which is this: build enough rapport to get her to ask for your number. Because if you dont, she wont want to hear from you anyway. Maybe thats unrealistic (it basically means never close, let her close you), but the kernel of truth it contains is real enough.
In a nutshell: accept the fact that maybe only 2 or 5 out of 100 women you meet will be *really* into you, stop wasting time on those who aren't from the get-go, and keep ploughing through until you find that lucky gal. If you do 2 approaches a day you'll meet her in two months. In reality you'll get more dates than this, probably way more, but you know what I mean, I'm theorizing about how much work it takes to get a dedicated, high-quality plate.
Talk to 100 women and close off felt-rapport, eject if she doesnt hold up her end of the convo by asking you questions (this is a great way to screen for interest... just let the convo lag, just drop your end of the convo).
Thats what the field has taught me... maybe it will help you somehow.
I still dont understand this game at all really so if I gave you that impression, its wrong. But these are some ways to not waste time.
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