loismustdie8000
Don Juan
Well i have college tomorrow so hell if they look at me wired my goal is 30 for tomorrow!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by loismustdie8000
Seriously people just glare at me when i say Hi to them! I'm just sticking to asking the time.
Good job!! Trully good job! Remember if the girl is ignoring u probably she is snoby and insecure just for the fun try to talk to them and u will see how LOW their social SKILLZ! its amazing!!Originally posted by shrewd
Day 1 is over...actually more of a half day but w.e...only got 4or 5 good solid EC's but it wasn't from lack of trying, everyone seems to find a way to look somewhere else. One good thing that happened was in psyc class i sat beside some cute chick i didn't know and talked to her for a bit before class began, and on the bus home i smiled and made EC with 2 girls, one smiled back and kept ec, one looked away but she hovered around me till the bus came. I should have made some comment about her hat or something but w.e...baby steps.
Tommorow i plan on doing 10 hello's and smiles , and i'm gonna work my way up by 5 till i have 50.
Later guys.
Dont be hating,bro.Let these brothers do the best they can to get out of the cacoons they r in.Its good to know that some dj do something to improve their experiental knowledge so that the become more competent in using their social skillsOriginally posted by Zombie
You two are pathetic.
Screw this "Hello" bullsh!t. Ask some girls out, then tell us what happened.
Don't be such pvssies.
your right dude I will get 30 today!Originally posted by Shocker
screw that man, you all you have to do is look them in the face and say hi. They can be old if you want, and they never seem to answer anyways. If you have trouble doing that, you will have trouble in the future of bootcamp. Just do you best
Shocker
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Originally posted by agrisafi1
Great work guys!
Well this assignment was pretty easy, especially because I work in a bar/resteraunt. From last weekend to today Ive gotten at least 50 ECs and 50 hellos.
And of those hellos, the vast majority said hello back and smiled, and a few even struck up conversations with me. In a local mall, one girl asked me for directions to a store and held conversation for a few minutes.
-Anth
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DOESN"T COUNT! get ECs and Hellos outside your job. I'm selling ladies shoes and having 50-100 ECs and Hellos a day. Its easy because u have to its ur JOB! But outside when u are in school or mall its hard! Do it outside man!Originally posted by agrisafi1
Great work guys!
Well this assignment was pretty easy, especially because I work in a bar/resteraunt. From last weekend to today Ive gotten at least 50 ECs and 50 hellos.
And of those hellos, the vast majority said hello back and smiled, and a few even struck up conversations with me. In a local mall, one girl asked me for directions to a store and held conversation for a few minutes.
-Anth
I agree, it shouldnt count but it also depends on the job. If you are a greeter at a restraunt for example you would have 50 by the end of your shift. Thats why I count them as .5 and to do most of this on my days off.Originally posted by IS|Reinhart
DOESN"T COUNT! get ECs and Hellos outside your job. I'm selling ladies shoes and having 50-100 ECs and Hellos a day. Its easy because u have to its ur JOB! But outside when u are in school or mall its hard! Do it outside man!
I spoke to 3 girls so far for like 10 minuts and 4 Hellos. Thursday.
Remember Sarging on Friday or Saturday!
I get the exact same thing, people will actually go to an effort to avoid looking at you. I said 2 hellos so far today, neither responded though. I also talked to a couple bums...it seems the only people on the street who will make EC with you are the ones begging for changeOriginally posted by Shocker
I went to the mall again for some more hello's and honestly it is a lot harder then I thought. Not that saying hi is hard, just that no one looks at you. Everyone is in their bubble.
I was in a store and I found that if you see someone looking at something on the shelf, go over and look at the same thing they have in their hand (as long as it isnt tampons), they will look at you and move over a step, thats where you smile and say hello. I found this easier to do.
Shocker
Originally posted by shrewd
I get the exact same thing, people will actually go to an effort to avoid looking at you. I said 2 hellos so far today, neither responded though. I also talked to a couple bums...it seems the only people on the street who will make EC with you are the ones begging for change![]()
Oh well i'm off to the campus bookstore in a bit hopefully i can strike up some conversations there...
Good job remember if they do not want to socialize with u then ITS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THEM!! not with u! When my friend who was born in USA went to Poland (he is 20 ) 1st thing he noticed People were giving him EYE CONTACTS everybody! so remember people do not want to give u ECs or answer ur hello that means they are afraid of u! THATS AWESOME! that means in that particular situation u are ALPHA> atleast the way i see it!Originally posted by shrewd
I get the exact same thing, people will actually go to an effort to avoid looking at you. I said 2 hellos so far today, neither responded though. I also talked to a couple bums...it seems the only people on the street who will make EC with you are the ones begging for change![]()
Oh well i'm off to the campus bookstore in a bit hopefully i can strike up some conversations there...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.