Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I've reached enlightenment

I'm in the Mood

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I love everything about this thread. This must be put in the DJ Bible!

Beliefs are so hard to change.
(I should believe they're easy shouldn't I :p)

I am turning 18 in 2 months, and even at a young age it's extremely difficult to completely reorganize your thoughts. I always feel like I have to prove them to myself and put my beliefs into the real world by acting as if they were true.

The positive/negative thing is a wonderful way of thinking, but sometimes you realize that something you thought was positive is negative and it completely throws you off.

It takes awhile to make it all the way, and I am truly happy for you that you made it all the way. I will too eventually.

Self improvement forever!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
 

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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
You can use meditation anyway you'd like. I use it to clear my head of all thoughts so that I can focus. It also helps me to control my thoughts. When you meditate often, it will be very easy to eliminate unwanted thoughts.
 

Ambition Now

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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
The goal of meditation in the buddhist philosophy is to reach enlightment (nirvana), wich is a state of no self, no ego.

But psychologically speaking, meditation can bring you self-control...

You dont HAVE to follow the buddhist tradition to benefit yourself with meditation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I woud like send a pm to Noobie, but for some reason i dont have permission to send..someone know why? Thanks!
 

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I love your accent and I'm trying to visualize you sitting on my couch next to me. But so far, it isn't working. I'd appreciate your advice.
 
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