"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I love everything about this thread. This must be put in the DJ Bible!

Beliefs are so hard to change.
(I should believe they're easy shouldn't I :p)

I am turning 18 in 2 months, and even at a young age it's extremely difficult to completely reorganize your thoughts. I always feel like I have to prove them to myself and put my beliefs into the real world by acting as if they were true.

The positive/negative thing is a wonderful way of thinking, but sometimes you realize that something you thought was positive is negative and it completely throws you off.

It takes awhile to make it all the way, and I am truly happy for you that you made it all the way. I will too eventually.

Self improvement forever!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
 
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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
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You can use meditation anyway you'd like. I use it to clear my head of all thoughts so that I can focus. It also helps me to control my thoughts. When you meditate often, it will be very easy to eliminate unwanted thoughts.
 
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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
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The goal of meditation in the buddhist philosophy is to reach enlightment (nirvana), wich is a state of no self, no ego.

But psychologically speaking, meditation can bring you self-control...

You dont HAVE to follow the buddhist tradition to benefit yourself with meditation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I woud like send a pm to Noobie, but for some reason i dont have permission to send..someone know why? Thanks!
 
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I love your accent and I'm trying to visualize you sitting on my couch next to me. But so far, it isn't working. I'd appreciate your advice.
 
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