"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've reached enlightenment

I'm in the Mood

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I love everything about this thread. This must be put in the DJ Bible!

Beliefs are so hard to change.
(I should believe they're easy shouldn't I :p)

I am turning 18 in 2 months, and even at a young age it's extremely difficult to completely reorganize your thoughts. I always feel like I have to prove them to myself and put my beliefs into the real world by acting as if they were true.

The positive/negative thing is a wonderful way of thinking, but sometimes you realize that something you thought was positive is negative and it completely throws you off.

It takes awhile to make it all the way, and I am truly happy for you that you made it all the way. I will too eventually.

Self improvement forever!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
 

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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
You can use meditation anyway you'd like. I use it to clear my head of all thoughts so that I can focus. It also helps me to control my thoughts. When you meditate often, it will be very easy to eliminate unwanted thoughts.
 

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thechosenone2190 said:
Doesn't meditation conflict with the notion of positive vs negative thoughts? Doesn't meditation aim to eliminate labels and polarities that the ego creates such as "good" vs "bad"? This is a question that has been troubling me a lot. I meditate regularly, but I also want to be successful. Positive thinking = success, and meditation = happiness, but positive thinking contradicts the goal of meditation. Meditation aims to eliminate thinking all together. Can someone help me resolve this discrepancy?
The goal of meditation in the buddhist philosophy is to reach enlightment (nirvana), wich is a state of no self, no ego.

But psychologically speaking, meditation can bring you self-control...

You dont HAVE to follow the buddhist tradition to benefit yourself with meditation.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I woud like send a pm to Noobie, but for some reason i dont have permission to send..someone know why? Thanks!
 

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I love your accent and I'm trying to visualize you sitting on my couch next to me. But so far, it isn't working. I'd appreciate your advice.
 
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