"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've Never Heard My GF Say Thank You
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
I suppose that wouldnt be very polite or respectful!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
does she have a past?!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So do you want to do anything about it?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So bring it up the next time you do something for her. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, actually it shouldn't be. That would actually make it look as if you are seeking some type of approval. Bring it up after doing something simple like giving her a glass of water.
After doing than and she doesn't thank you; just tell her in a non confrontational way that you've noticed that she never thanks you for any of your efforts and it makes you feel as if she doesn't appreciate you. That should open up a bit of dialog, however remember not to put her on the defensive. Doing so will get you nowhere.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
If not, maybe she's selfish. This is also bad because it may mean that she feels like she is the one in control of this relationship, and that you SHOULD be doing these things for her! If this is the case, then you better step up and take action.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
), go get your chocolates and give them to her. If she doesn't thank you for this, then there is a serious problem.if she is with you for 6 months she obviously likes you dumb azz.
But if my girlfriend never said thank you I would consider her a selfish b*tch. Ever heard of selfishness? Women who don't say thank you are selfish. Especially if you spend money on them and they are not doing anything for you in return.
My GF is a complete up and down pain who is a pleasure one minute and the next day she is in a funny mood...but she always says thank you for everything, if it's dinner, a gift, when I tell her she is beautiful etc.