"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I've Never Heard My GF Say Thank You
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
I suppose that wouldnt be very polite or respectful!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
does she have a past?!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So do you want to do anything about it?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So bring it up the next time you do something for her. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant, actually it shouldn't be. That would actually make it look as if you are seeking some type of approval. Bring it up after doing something simple like giving her a glass of water.
After doing than and she doesn't thank you; just tell her in a non confrontational way that you've noticed that she never thanks you for any of your efforts and it makes you feel as if she doesn't appreciate you. That should open up a bit of dialog, however remember not to put her on the defensive. Doing so will get you nowhere.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
If not, maybe she's selfish. This is also bad because it may mean that she feels like she is the one in control of this relationship, and that you SHOULD be doing these things for her! If this is the case, then you better step up and take action.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
), go get your chocolates and give them to her. If she doesn't thank you for this, then there is a serious problem.if she is with you for 6 months she obviously likes you dumb azz.
But if my girlfriend never said thank you I would consider her a selfish b*tch. Ever heard of selfishness? Women who don't say thank you are selfish. Especially if you spend money on them and they are not doing anything for you in return.
My GF is a complete up and down pain who is a pleasure one minute and the next day she is in a funny mood...but she always says thank you for everything, if it's dinner, a gift, when I tell her she is beautiful etc.