"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've lost myself.

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I don't know what my problem is, otherwise, I'd search for a few strings and find a good few posts to solve it. So I'll settle on telling yawl how I feel.

I've lost my last GF just when I though I had something good going - because all I wanted was the physical side of the relationship. I saw her as a sex-object. I fear the same thing is happening with my current girl. Sure, over phone it's easy talking to her - but when we're together, all I want to do is fvck her. I'm not driven by it, not at all. I turn down her meetings and invitations when I want to, etc. And whenever I do meet up with her, I promise I'll have a nice, chatty evening. Well, that never comes true. I never know what to say - I just do all sorts of tests and MAVEC crap to get her hyped - then I go for it.

But... I don't want that anymore. I feel like a part of me is dying because I don't let my sides show. Or even, because I don't know how to use those sides.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's not the women, I'm sure... it's ME!

On being yourself: Heh, what's that like? I've changed so much since starting this new way of life, that I don't know what 'me' is. I just know what 'me' wants to be. But not sure how to acheive it. My goal now is to be more... human. Though I don't think anyone made a post about that. Nor can I find the answer myself - possibly because I don't know where to look. :-/
 
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Sure, over phone it's easy talking to her - but when we're together, all I want to do is fvck her.
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I know what you're talking about. This is called the "fvck" stage in a relationship. It happens to pretty much everybody who gets involved in a LTR. Shouldn't be anything to really worry about.

What you might want to do is actually take your gf out on a few dates instead of having your entire "date" naked and in bed. Remember, you can always fvck her after the date and she won't feel like a sexual object.

Conversation will begin to wear really thin if all you do is talk. You're gonna have to fill that void somehow either with sex, or a fun action date.

Trust me, there's nothing wrong with you. I've gone through it, and I'm sure many others here have gone through it.
 
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