"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ive had one of the weirdest nights..

TRSX

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So im out with this chick, and we're just having a blast. The comedy show was awesome, we were both laughing.. she was giving me HUGE IOI's - hanging all over me blah blah blah

So after the show we decided to hit some more bars, hang out have a good time....

Well then we got back to my car and started making out and she was like "do you like me?" and i said yeah you're cool why dont you get in the car and we'll talk about it, or you can come over to my place.

All of the sudden she turned on a dime. She all of the sudden got really stand off'ish and was like "I DONT DO THAT KINDA STUFF AND IM REALLY OFFENDED AT THOSE WORDS blah blah blah" -- I'm thinking to myself, yeah maybe i was a bit aggressive, but **** man, shes 8 years older then me, shes not ****ing dumb. This was our 3rd date and I had to escalate it somehow. Anyways it took a while to calm her down.

Shes trying to convince me that I did nothing wrong she was just offput by the 6-8 words i said. Im like we just spent 5 hours together on this date.. and now you're pissed at 8 words???

So we get in my car, we're all hanging out and whatever I drive her back to her spot and we hardcore make out, im grabbing titties and ****, and shes LOVING it. So then im like so ill see you on friday you come over and watch a movie...

Dime turn again. - "You just assume that im gonna see you on this date? No, see now im really seeing that youre just ****y."

uh.. okay..

So then we're making out again and shes loving it and she gets out of my car and is like alright drive safe.

I get a text from her 5 minutes later: "Awww i'm worried now, didnt know it was so late! Come back if you need to"

So i just reply: "Gnight :)"

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What is this blasphemy?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Greasy Pig

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Search the forums for "anti slut defence" (ASD) and "last minute resistance" (LMR).
You're not alone in this fvcked up situation.
 

seethehoop

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Don't think this is asd. Sounds more like drama queen or signs of a bpd to me. Nut Job. Be weary of this one.
 

SgtSplacker

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Bang her in the car next time stop trying to plan things. And keep trying her it turns her on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TRSX

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Yeah dude, im not ****in walkin on eggshells anymore.

This girl was obviously offended by what I said, and i can respect that - but at the same time I can't just magically turn back time and come up with a better way of saying it, or not saying it at all.

So i told her I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable but she had this like look and attitude that I was gonna rape her in my car. Chill the **** out?

I can already tell what kind of girl this is.. but im gonna try this one last time (Something 100% sober and chill), if we get the same results - im nexting her.

Ill keep you updated
 

pdx1138

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I would have expected her to be ok with that after a third date and a fun one at that.

After dealing with some of this myself from a BPD chick, I decided not to talk about such things. Just take action and go for it. If you then talk about on another date, after doing the deed and she says the same kind of thing....NEXT her.
 

marmel75

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Just fvck the attitude out of her...she'll learn to respect the c0ck...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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