"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've got a huge problem, I don't want to lose her, please help!

a-guy63

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Ok so here's my problem. I got asked to prom by a really good friend of mine who I like as more then a friend but didn't think she thought thesame thing about me. I went under the impression we were going as "just friends." We had an absolute blast at the dance and then went to the after party together. At the party we hooked up while we were both sober and this combined with the fact that SHE asked me to prom makes me wonder if she really does like me as more than a friend. My big problem is that she's a senior and is graduating in 2 weeks and I'm a junior who has one year left of high school. She is going to college far away from me and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her and have a relationship in the summer or just let her go and lose her forever. I'm in love with her but I don't want to hurt her. HELP!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kraytkiller

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All these people that come to this forum and make posts like this asking for advice...without reading any of the material...It's just plain annoying.

She's leaving for the college. Your going to lose her, unless she doesn't go to college for a while (Doesn't sound like that's happening)

You don't need her. You say you don't want to hurt her. Hurt her how? By not acting on these 'hints' she's suddenly showing you? It sounds like she's been fine being just friends all this time. I'm sure she'll be fine in the future being just friends as well.

Why would you tell her how you feel? Why do you have to?

Hooked up? What do you mean, did you ****? If so why are you still questioning your status with her?
 

Captain

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a-guy63 said:
She is going to college far away from me
Long distance relationship do not work. No self respecting man gets into one.

and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her
Never ever do this. Read the DJ Bible at the bottom of the page, and the articles in the hall of fame on this site. You're thinking about everything the wrong way.

I'm in love with her
It's lust. We call it "one-itis". There are plenty of better girls out there, you need to go out and meet them.

but I don't want to hurt her.
Screw that. That's just an excuse for not having balls. Ask her out and have a fling with her, until she goes away. When she goes away, it's over. You can hook up whenever she gets back, but you can't have a relationship with her - she's moving away.
 

frisco

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Getting layed is a pregression of physical escalation, Asking her to be in a relationship will more than likely hinder your foward progressive escalation. So there for Dont bring up the relationship mobo jumbo it will only slow you down. Just Escelate physicaly **** her and have no thoughts of being in a relationship because starting a relationship when it is inevetable that it will end at the end of the summer is complete ****ing idocracy SO GROW SOME BALLS **** HER AND DONT PLAY THE FEMALE PART WERE YOU ENVOLE ALL THE ARE WE BF AND GF OR ****
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eaglez1177

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Wow theres way too many AFCs on this planet
 
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