Ok so here's my problem. I got asked to prom by a really good friend of mine who I like as more then a friend but didn't think she thought thesame thing about me. I went under the impression we were going as "just friends." We had an absolute blast at the dance and then went to the after party together. At the party we hooked up while we were both sober and this combined with the fact that SHE asked me to prom makes me wonder if she really does like me as more than a friend. My big problem is that she's a senior and is graduating in 2 weeks and I'm a junior who has one year left of high school. She is going to college far away from me and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her and have a relationship in the summer or just let her go and lose her forever. I'm in love with her but I don't want to hurt her. HELP!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've got a huge problem, I don't want to lose her, please help!
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kraytkiller
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All these people that come to this forum and make posts like this asking for advice...without reading any of the material...It's just plain annoying.
She's leaving for the college. Your going to lose her, unless she doesn't go to college for a while (Doesn't sound like that's happening)
You don't need her. You say you don't want to hurt her. Hurt her how? By not acting on these 'hints' she's suddenly showing you? It sounds like she's been fine being just friends all this time. I'm sure she'll be fine in the future being just friends as well.
Why would you tell her how you feel? Why do you have to?
Hooked up? What do you mean, did you ****? If so why are you still questioning your status with her?
She's leaving for the college. Your going to lose her, unless she doesn't go to college for a while (Doesn't sound like that's happening)
You don't need her. You say you don't want to hurt her. Hurt her how? By not acting on these 'hints' she's suddenly showing you? It sounds like she's been fine being just friends all this time. I'm sure she'll be fine in the future being just friends as well.
Why would you tell her how you feel? Why do you have to?
Hooked up? What do you mean, did you ****? If so why are you still questioning your status with her?
Long distance relationship do not work. No self respecting man gets into one.a-guy63 said:She is going to college far away from me
Never ever do this. Read the DJ Bible at the bottom of the page, and the articles in the hall of fame on this site. You're thinking about everything the wrong way.and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her
It's lust. We call it "one-itis". There are plenty of better girls out there, you need to go out and meet them.I'm in love with her
Screw that. That's just an excuse for not having balls. Ask her out and have a fling with her, until she goes away. When she goes away, it's over. You can hook up whenever she gets back, but you can't have a relationship with her - she's moving away.but I don't want to hurt her.
Daddy The Pimp
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Read this , this is what you need.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160570
And not , your not in love with her. You only think you're in love with her because you don't have another women to fill her place up. Read that thread .
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160570
And not , your not in love with her. You only think you're in love with her because you don't have another women to fill her place up. Read that thread .
Getting layed is a pregression of physical escalation, Asking her to be in a relationship will more than likely hinder your foward progressive escalation. So there for Dont bring up the relationship mobo jumbo it will only slow you down. Just Escelate physicaly **** her and have no thoughts of being in a relationship because starting a relationship when it is inevetable that it will end at the end of the summer is complete ****ing idocracy SO GROW SOME BALLS **** HER AND DONT PLAY THE FEMALE PART WERE YOU ENVOLE ALL THE ARE WE BF AND GF OR ****
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
eaglez1177
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Wow theres way too many AFCs on this planet