"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've got a huge problem, I don't want to lose her, please help!

a-guy63

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Ok so here's my problem. I got asked to prom by a really good friend of mine who I like as more then a friend but didn't think she thought thesame thing about me. I went under the impression we were going as "just friends." We had an absolute blast at the dance and then went to the after party together. At the party we hooked up while we were both sober and this combined with the fact that SHE asked me to prom makes me wonder if she really does like me as more than a friend. My big problem is that she's a senior and is graduating in 2 weeks and I'm a junior who has one year left of high school. She is going to college far away from me and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her and have a relationship in the summer or just let her go and lose her forever. I'm in love with her but I don't want to hurt her. HELP!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kraytkiller

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All these people that come to this forum and make posts like this asking for advice...without reading any of the material...It's just plain annoying.

She's leaving for the college. Your going to lose her, unless she doesn't go to college for a while (Doesn't sound like that's happening)

You don't need her. You say you don't want to hurt her. Hurt her how? By not acting on these 'hints' she's suddenly showing you? It sounds like she's been fine being just friends all this time. I'm sure she'll be fine in the future being just friends as well.

Why would you tell her how you feel? Why do you have to?

Hooked up? What do you mean, did you ****? If so why are you still questioning your status with her?
 

Captain

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a-guy63 said:
She is going to college far away from me
Long distance relationship do not work. No self respecting man gets into one.

and I'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her
Never ever do this. Read the DJ Bible at the bottom of the page, and the articles in the hall of fame on this site. You're thinking about everything the wrong way.

I'm in love with her
It's lust. We call it "one-itis". There are plenty of better girls out there, you need to go out and meet them.

but I don't want to hurt her.
Screw that. That's just an excuse for not having balls. Ask her out and have a fling with her, until she goes away. When she goes away, it's over. You can hook up whenever she gets back, but you can't have a relationship with her - she's moving away.
 

frisco

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Getting layed is a pregression of physical escalation, Asking her to be in a relationship will more than likely hinder your foward progressive escalation. So there for Dont bring up the relationship mobo jumbo it will only slow you down. Just Escelate physicaly **** her and have no thoughts of being in a relationship because starting a relationship when it is inevetable that it will end at the end of the summer is complete ****ing idocracy SO GROW SOME BALLS **** HER AND DONT PLAY THE FEMALE PART WERE YOU ENVOLE ALL THE ARE WE BF AND GF OR ****
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eaglez1177

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Wow theres way too many AFCs on this planet
 
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