"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ive been having condom problems lately.

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this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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garruk said:
this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
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Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
 
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Sabol said:
Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
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agreed!!!
 
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the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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what did she have to say about that? i'm sure she wasn't too happy. dont make a regular thing out of it because you will quickly turn her off. i laughed when you said slapped it on and went to town. could be a medical problem. are they too loose on you? make sure it fits properly because if it doesnt thats where you could run into problems with the softness like you have.
 
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LoneWolf said:
the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
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this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
 
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I favor tax credits for girls who go on the Pill.
 
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garruk said:
this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
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possibly... i always usually go soft with new girls the first time. after that it gets a lot better cause you get more comfortable with the girl. i'm sure that is your problem. but you seriously just need to relax and take it slow. a lot of foreplay helps you get comfortable with the girl and being naked together. that works for me. rushing it is bad. sometimes when my gf is over, we just get naked and lie in the bed and touch each other without kissing. i play with her tits and kiss her neck a few times, rub her down below, tease. slowly slowly you get into it :p
 
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If you take it easy and just slip a few fingers in and out then you will be hard as fvck just imagining your **** in there. Works for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I favor tax credits for girls who go on the Pill.
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Hahaha I second!

Lets get a bill going..
 
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It takes a while to get used to using condoms. You will never hear a guy who has experience with them say anything about regularly losing his hard-on.

You also have to mentally get used to the condom being there. It's a vicious cycle for you right now because you're thinking "Oh, condoms suck. I can never finish with these things on!"

Yes, you can. Get used to it. The only thing keeping you from staying erect (unless you DO actually have ED), is your mindset.

Just keep at it.
 
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