"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ive been having condom problems lately.

garruk

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this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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garruk said:
this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
 

garruk

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Sabol said:
Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
agreed!!!
 

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the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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what did she have to say about that? i'm sure she wasn't too happy. dont make a regular thing out of it because you will quickly turn her off. i laughed when you said slapped it on and went to town. could be a medical problem. are they too loose on you? make sure it fits properly because if it doesnt thats where you could run into problems with the softness like you have.
 

garruk

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LoneWolf said:
the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
 

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I favor tax credits for girls who go on the Pill.
 

LoneWolf

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garruk said:
this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
possibly... i always usually go soft with new girls the first time. after that it gets a lot better cause you get more comfortable with the girl. i'm sure that is your problem. but you seriously just need to relax and take it slow. a lot of foreplay helps you get comfortable with the girl and being naked together. that works for me. rushing it is bad. sometimes when my gf is over, we just get naked and lie in the bed and touch each other without kissing. i play with her tits and kiss her neck a few times, rub her down below, tease. slowly slowly you get into it :p
 

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If you take it easy and just slip a few fingers in and out then you will be hard as fvck just imagining your **** in there. Works for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Leporello said:
I favor tax credits for girls who go on the Pill.
Hahaha I second!

Lets get a bill going..
 

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It takes a while to get used to using condoms. You will never hear a guy who has experience with them say anything about regularly losing his hard-on.

You also have to mentally get used to the condom being there. It's a vicious cycle for you right now because you're thinking "Oh, condoms suck. I can never finish with these things on!"

Yes, you can. Get used to it. The only thing keeping you from staying erect (unless you DO actually have ED), is your mindset.

Just keep at it.
 
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