"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ive been having condom problems lately.

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this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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garruk said:
this morning, I finally succeeded in getting into the pants of this girl who i've been seeing. she had slept over the night before but this morning was the first time we did it. nayways, i slapped on a condom and went to town....only to get soft about 5 minutes in. this was embarassing as hell.


just a few hours ago, the same thing happened. we're in the middle of having sex, about 8 minutes in and i go soft again. WTF.



can anyone help me out?
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Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
 
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Sabol said:
Not really, but I hate condoms. Can't feel a damn thing and it's nearly impossible for me to cvm.
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agreed!!!
 
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the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what did she have to say about that? i'm sure she wasn't too happy. dont make a regular thing out of it because you will quickly turn her off. i laughed when you said slapped it on and went to town. could be a medical problem. are they too loose on you? make sure it fits properly because if it doesnt thats where you could run into problems with the softness like you have.
 
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LoneWolf said:
the only reason i ever get soft is if i'm a little nervous. never happens now though. i don't think condoms are THAT bad. it still feels good to me. plus you don't blow up so fast. maybe you're nervous and need to relax? or the condoms are not comfortable. gotta try different brands to find the best for you.
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this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
 
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I favor tax credits for girls who go on the Pill.
 
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garruk said:
this might be it. i wonder if im having performance anxiety or soemhting.
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possibly... i always usually go soft with new girls the first time. after that it gets a lot better cause you get more comfortable with the girl. i'm sure that is your problem. but you seriously just need to relax and take it slow. a lot of foreplay helps you get comfortable with the girl and being naked together. that works for me. rushing it is bad. sometimes when my gf is over, we just get naked and lie in the bed and touch each other without kissing. i play with her tits and kiss her neck a few times, rub her down below, tease. slowly slowly you get into it :p
 
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If you take it easy and just slip a few fingers in and out then you will be hard as fvck just imagining your **** in there. Works for me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hahaha I second!

Lets get a bill going..
 
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It takes a while to get used to using condoms. You will never hear a guy who has experience with them say anything about regularly losing his hard-on.

You also have to mentally get used to the condom being there. It's a vicious cycle for you right now because you're thinking "Oh, condoms suck. I can never finish with these things on!"

Yes, you can. Get used to it. The only thing keeping you from staying erect (unless you DO actually have ED), is your mindset.

Just keep at it.
 
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