"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've been hanging out with my ex since her bf is gone temporarily

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Phonk Beta

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My ex asked me to have dinner with her about a week ago. Her current bf is away on a business trip. Every night, she's been asking me to have dinner with her or just hang out with her. Every time we do, she always brings up all the fun times we had together. Sometimes, we talk about how things would be like if we were still together.

I suspect she's using me to fill the void in her life for the time being.

What do you guys think? Does she still have feelings for me? I still care about her but not as much as I used to.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ Hawtness

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She's using you to waste time. You might as well take the opportunity and just bang her. =/
 
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NewMan

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You want her.

She knows it.

You've yet to make a move.

If you were to step up to the plate and get some pvssy - then fine. Otherwise forget it.
 
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DJDamage

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What is it that you want to do? if you want to bang her and walk away you have a chance.

I will not recommand going back with this chick. This is a manipulative wh0re going behind her boyfriend back and talking to you. If she did this to him, she will do this to you (remember why you two broke in the first place, in most cases the past always repeats itself.)

I suspect she's using me to fill the void in her life for the time being.
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If your gut is telling you this, then it is probably true. You know her well enough to arrive to this conclusion.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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chuchu

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Think of why you two broke up in the first place.

Bust your DJ moves on her, make her wants you but cant have you. Get a new gf while you're at it please!
 
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aftershock

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Bad idea - be a man and walk away.

She sounds as if she deserves to be treated like crap!
 
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Luscious

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Listen to these guys - they are spot on.

Either hit it and quit it or move on. There is absolutely no way you can go long-term on this, you can only snag a nice little hit and run.
 
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It could be that or it could be she may want to get back with you.

Go for the bang and be cool about the whole situation while not dedicating 100% to her.
 
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