"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's too much effort

5ke1chat

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hi

let me present myself. before my 20yo, I was socially awkward, but I don't feel like that anymore.
Now I'm 25yo, I live in hostels and can meet many people easily. I have no problem to make conversations with girls in normal situations (ie, not daygame).
I'm happy about my life, I have zero willpower problem when I get into a project (workout, money, spirituality...)
A few people told me I'm weird, but whatever. A few girls told me I'm cute, so I guess I'm not ugly.

I never had a girlfriend. My current goal with women is to satisfy my penis. if I can get some love and affection, why not.

The problem is, unless I have a crush on a girl (and that's rare) , then I really don't feel like putting any effort on her, I just want to have sex, I don't want to talk for days or hang out with them.

I've read that if you don't enjoy the process, then game is a big waste of time. Do you think it's true?


Sometime I think I'd better focus on becoming rich and open a porn company (no kidding here) or just travel the world and **** tons of prostitutes. But at some point my need for love and affection would wake up, and I'd be left unskilled about getting girlfriends.

What's your opinion?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mrgoodstuff

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hi

let me present myself. before my 20yo, I was socially awkward, but I don't feel like that anymore.
Now I'm 25yo, I live in hostels and can meet many people easily. I have no problem to make conversations with girls in normal situations (ie, not daygame).
I'm happy about my life, I have zero willpower problem when I get into a project (workout, money, spirituality...)
A few people told me I'm weird, but whatever. A few girls told me I'm cute, so I guess I'm not ugly.

I never had a girlfriend. My current goal with women is to satisfy my penis. if I can get some love and affection, why not.

The problem is, unless I have a crush on a girl (and that's rare) , then I really don't feel like putting any effort on her, I just want to have sex, I don't want to talk for days or hang out with them.

I've read that if you don't enjoy the process, then game is a big waste of time. Do you think it's true?


Sometime I think I'd better focus on becoming rich and open a porn company (no kidding here) or just travel the world and **** tons of prostitutes. But at some point my need for love and affection would wake up, and I'd be left unskilled about getting girlfriends.

What's your opinion?
I think getting unskilled in getting gfs points to a loss of the ability to establish rapport and connection. Its better not to lose that.
 

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hi

let me present myself. before my 20yo, I was socially awkward, but I don't feel like that anymore.
Now I'm 25yo, I live in hostels and can meet many people easily. I have no problem to make conversations with girls in normal situations (ie, not daygame).
I'm happy about my life, I have zero willpower problem when I get into a project (workout, money, spirituality...)
A few people told me I'm weird, but whatever. A few girls told me I'm cute, so I guess I'm not ugly.

I never had a girlfriend. My current goal with women is to satisfy my penis. if I can get some love and affection, why not.

The problem is, unless I have a crush on a girl (and that's rare) , then I really don't feel like putting any effort on her, I just want to have sex, I don't want to talk for days or hang out with them.

I've read that if you don't enjoy the process, then game is a big waste of time. Do you think it's true?


Sometime I think I'd better focus on becoming rich and open a porn company (no kidding here) or just travel the world and **** tons of prostitutes. But at some point my need for love and affection would wake up, and I'd be left unskilled about getting girlfriends.

What's your opinion?
Opening a porn company and having a girlfriend are not mutually exclusive. You can have both.
I say focus on money and porn company right now, once you are succesfull it´ll be easier to get a gf, and your succes will give you access to hotter women
 

5ke1chat

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My opinion is that you are probably a porn addict, which is a serious issue and should be resolved in order for you to have a healthy sexual life.
I didn't watch porn since more than a month.
No issue here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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5ke1chat

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markfromeurope thanks you for trying to help but I think you are not the one I need.

I once stopped masturbation for 2 weeks. I got back into it because its useless to stop. I don't have any faith in little clickbait tricks, "eat 3 bananas a day and it will do incredible things to your body", "drink 1 litter of water just after waking up to get bigger muscles", "stop masturbating and....."

please stop answering my thread

the ability to establish rapport and connection.
Thanks Mrgoodstuff, indeed, one of the last crush I had was because I felt intellectually connected to this girl, and enjoyed a lot her chill and calm vibe. She wasn't even very hot (6/10).
I feel different than most of the people and somehow disconnected from them.
 
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