"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's time to ask...now what?

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Okay...I'm kinda new to this stuff, so I don't really understand all of the acronyms and such (I know DJ and AFC :) ) A friend directed me to this website for help.

I've had my eye on this girl for a while. Now, in the past I never considered myself a positive person when it came to asking a girl out. Whenever I liked a girl in the past years, I've always screwed them up by telling the girl how I feel (and after reading the posts, and learning from my mistakes, that WASN'T a good idea...)

So now, for the past few weeks, I've been becoming more and more nervous about the situation. It's almost the end of Grade 10 for us, and then summer. If I don't ask now, I'll have to wait three months. And I don't think I can do that.

For the first time in my life I feel extremely confident about a situation like this. No longer am I daydreaming about being with a girl; I feel as if I'm taking action. It's an odd feeling, but it's exhilerating.

I achieve excellent grades but at the same time manage to be the class clown, and for some reason, because of this, I am able to talk and joke with girls all the time, especially this one.

But how do I ask her? I want to approach her confidentally, but it's weird because she's never seen my "serious" side, if you can call it that. Also, she spends a lot of time with her friends, so the only time I can approach her is in the morning sometime when she goes to her locker. We're not "friends", which is good because I'd hate to be stuck in the friends zone. But how should I ask? And when? I also work this weekend (and she does too, she's told me about her job and such) so should I ask her out friday? Is that safe? Or should I ask her out on the upcoming Monday of the last week of school, and ask if she wants to do something THAT weekend?

Thanks in advance
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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ONE MORE QUESTION:
I also have her e-mail...how should I talk to her on MSN?
 

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Make it seem like a coincidence that you see her on on the same time. Sign on during a time you think she'll be on, but do be on too often. Set up doing something with her and then sign off soon, but not too soon. The longer you talk to her the more of a chance you have of messing up. Don't let her see you on-line too much. She'll think you have no life.
 

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Okay, but what about asking her? Friday is tomorrow, monday's in a couple of days...I need answers!
 

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What do you need to know about asking? I don't know your personality or style or whatever, but when I asked a chick to prom, I was like "I think we should go to prom together, because you will have fun," but that might sound odd coming from someone else.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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