"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Its ok if its doesn't work

n00bPimp

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A lot of times when I hang out with noob pua's or afc's and I tell them to approach, they will resist by saying "its not gonna work because she's talking" or "its not gonna work because the energy is off" or "that opener is not gonna work here" or a bunch of other objections dealing with how they think the approach wont work.
Well I always tell them the same thing and it usually makes them approach so i thought I'd share it here.
It is ok if it doesn't work. Its ok your opener doesn't work, and its ok if the timing is not the right one. If you're doing something positive towards your goal thats all that matters. And here's some news, most of the time the things that you think won't work are just as effective as anything else.

In the field we need to liberate ourselves, and we need to let ourselves flow. So liberate yourself from the need to be perfect. Its fine if its not perfect, and its ok if it doesn't work. You're not there to impress anyone , thats actually counteractive, you're out there to become a confident guy. The sex is one of the perks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rakish rake

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n00bPimp said:
It is ok if it doesn't work. Its ok your opener doesn't work, and its ok if the timing is not the right one. If you're doing something positive towards your goal thats all that matters.
Truth. Most of the time an "awkward" situation can make for an easy opener and ice breaker.
 

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Experience is the best teacher. You'll get over it and get better.

The pyramids weren't built in a day. You miss all the shots you don't take. You won't get every girl you go for. New folks should read my sig and apply it.

Case closed.
 
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