"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its ok if its doesn't work

n00bPimp

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A lot of times when I hang out with noob pua's or afc's and I tell them to approach, they will resist by saying "its not gonna work because she's talking" or "its not gonna work because the energy is off" or "that opener is not gonna work here" or a bunch of other objections dealing with how they think the approach wont work.
Well I always tell them the same thing and it usually makes them approach so i thought I'd share it here.
It is ok if it doesn't work. Its ok your opener doesn't work, and its ok if the timing is not the right one. If you're doing something positive towards your goal thats all that matters. And here's some news, most of the time the things that you think won't work are just as effective as anything else.

In the field we need to liberate ourselves, and we need to let ourselves flow. So liberate yourself from the need to be perfect. Its fine if its not perfect, and its ok if it doesn't work. You're not there to impress anyone , thats actually counteractive, you're out there to become a confident guy. The sex is one of the perks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rakish rake

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n00bPimp said:
It is ok if it doesn't work. Its ok your opener doesn't work, and its ok if the timing is not the right one. If you're doing something positive towards your goal thats all that matters.
Truth. Most of the time an "awkward" situation can make for an easy opener and ice breaker.
 

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Experience is the best teacher. You'll get over it and get better.

The pyramids weren't built in a day. You miss all the shots you don't take. You won't get every girl you go for. New folks should read my sig and apply it.

Case closed.
 
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