"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
its not fair that i'm still a virgin at 38
- Thread starter krs
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mojogoat
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:crackup:Mojogoat said:Not to worry, just two more years 'til you get your own Hollywood blockbuster.
i don't want a prostate. i want a real female. not paying any money for one. i take em out to the nicest retrants and even get em flowers. but instead of becoming my girlfriend they have sex with a jerk. it isn't fair. im so nice. but they go for the jerks who treat em like trash. it sucks.Gman90 said:tough **** bro. At this point just go get you a prostitute.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I'll let you in on a secret. I'm not trying to harsh. You have my sympathy.
But the truth is...
People don't care if you EVER date or get a gf or get laid. Not even your own family.
For years, I thought someone would fix me up with a girl or some older lady would "break me in." It didn't happen. If I wanted to get laid, I had to go after it myself.
A certain percentage of guys are being kept out of the dating/sex pool by society.
You can either accept this and forget about women or bust your arse to improve yourself and don't stop until you get some action.
I chose the later. It's been a Hurculean effort, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
Don't get a hooker. Read my signature quote, and start your own "get laid mission." It might take six months or a year. But get it done.
Before you do that though, consider the no FAP and more importantly no porn challenge. You're probably whacking off to porn, and it's giving you a creepy vibe which is puss repellant.
Tips:
1. No fap and no porn
2. Exercise
3. Do what you can with your hair style wise
4. New clothes
5. Start taking a dance class so you can get comfortable with women and have better moves then the other chodes out there
6. Concurrent to all this is your ongoing get laid mission. Bang a 5 if you have to. It's ok. A 5 in your bed is better than a 10 on your computer.
Good luck man.