"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's better to be a NATURAL...then being creepy.

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have you guys notice that having this kinde of knowledge is in fact creepy.

think of the times girls will think it was spontaneous / fate, but in fact it was all masterminded by knowledge of seduction.

What do you guys say, creepy or not?

Better if it was natural right ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Always better to be natural. Yeah, it's kind of creepy. I just asked the mod to delete my account.
 

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Yeah, but all this talk about being natural, being alpha, trusting the gut, just be confident comes from the fact that you first used the material to know what the f**k to do. Otherwise you wouldn't have a clue about what you were supposed to do and just keep wondering to yourself what the f**k should I do.
...Which brings you back to the material.

Anyway, it's easy to become natural after you know how to handle yourself, but that only comes with practice. In fact it's only natural that you become natural after that. It's like pook said, do not be attained by formula.

It happens to everyone, but everyone must use the training wheels before riding a bike.
 

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I guess, thing is I have been into this for over 7 years and my knowledge/experience..heck, I even make prostitutes fall in love with me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lotus Effect said:
It happens to everyone, but everyone must use the training wheels before riding a bike.
Yes, I've seen it when I drive by a school or in a neighborhood (kids off from school, hookey, or for the Summer break whatever, the weekend) and a dude will be riding his bike slowly and circling her allthewhile macking on a girl walking (wherever she's walking) keeping her 'not bored'

You must catch her in her 'bored' times and keep her 'not bored' try to fvck her in her bored times, Not when she's having more fun than YOU.

Then there's the fisherman's analogy. Is he being 'natural' using Every bait imaginable to lure the fish to its demise (or he could release it, but he could scare it to death/shock the fish if he just throws it back into the water and it dies of shock, instead of gently releasing it back into the water).

It's kinda diabolical, these fishermen, who Use Every tactic to rack up as many big fish as they can, but that's life, you gotta survive, you gotta pass on your genes. If you want King Arthur and the knight's court fair-tale land, then go live that, if you got the money and the family lineage to live a Senator's life or royal life where you can play in that fairy-tale world, a kinda Heaven on Earth outside of nature.

So either play by nature (the animal kingdom) or play by unnatural methods of purity (picket white fence life).
 

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Women learned their behaviors and tactics naturally through a natural, gradual socialization structure that they found themselves woven into. Most of us men have had no exposure to any kind of natural structure.

Therefore, just like walking, riding a bike, sports, etc., we need to learn these things and internalize them through a formal structure. Once they are learned, they become internalized and calibrated to our personalities.

Therefore, it's not creepy at all but rather a learning process. Throughout history some men have learned to create illusions with which to captivate women, and most have not. What women crave is illusions, and not flesh and blood men. Seduction has always been about creating perceptions and harnessing the art of influence.
 

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I'm a natural at making my friends laugh but that doesn't mean I can do stand up comedy without a routine.

I'm a natural at writing and expressing ideas but that doesn't mean I can knock out a 120 page screenplay without planning, structure and ruthless editing.

I'm naturally fit and healthy but that doesn't mean I can run a marathon without gradually building up to it.

What's creepy about wanting to understand women better?

I love women. I love women like some guys love cars. I just want to know what makes them tick so I can drive them better. :)
 

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user name said:
I'm a natural at making my friends laugh but that doesn't mean I can do stand up comedy without a routine.

I'm a natural at writing and expressing ideas but that doesn't mean I can knock out a 120 page screenplay without planning, structure and ruthless editing.

I'm naturally fit and healthy but that doesn't mean I can run a marathon without gradually building up to it.

What's creepy about wanting to understand women better?

I love women. I love women like some guys love cars. I just want to know what makes them tick so I can drive them better. :)
Amen!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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