"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Its a waste of time having a ex girlfriend around?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I personally hate all of my exes, but its always a good thing to be on good terms with them, I regret each mean thing I've said to all of them, I really do. It did nothing but hurt them and make me look really really patheticAce of Flames said:How could having an ex hanging around NOT be a waste of time? I mean, she's your ex. She's over and done with. I don't get this question.
I'm still debating whether I should still talk to her or not. I spoke to her on the phone, just normal convo. I sent her a message, we just said what we been up to. It ended with her saying "i'm sure you'll find someone that'll make you 3x happier than i did" (I had told her to read my blog, it had a LITTLE bit about us breaking up, I kinda showed just a tiny bit of pain).
I really don't know what her response really was saying. When I say that, I mean, I'm usually able to judge how a girl is feeling thru what she says but since I can't hear her voice, I dunno.
But right now, I'm not giving her any attention (only attention is putting her in my top 16 friends list with her at like 12). In the process of moving on, but still hoping that sometime she'll call me up.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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lol i knowBigg Boss said:I don't hate my ex's. blah im gay.
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they fuk up too much to even given em; the chance to talk wit us
if a bittchj fuks up once shes done simple is that, u gotta get ur value up if u talkin to a ex that cheated on u
but like u guys said if u TRUELY left on good terms.. you should be devleping the fuk buddie relationship
screw this pupply love bulll**** friendship
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