"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's a Man's Man's World

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Like the old James Brown song, it is a Man's Man's World. Think about it - we call the shots. Forget all this nonsense about how woman are asking men out these days - it just doesn't happen. Which is FINE with me. I mean, we have the FREEDOM to talk to any honey we want with ABSOLUTELY NOTHING holding us back. It's our right - we are expected to do so. What if she isn't interested? SO WHAT! Then what's stopping you from talking to that hotty at the next table, or the one just down the street waiting for the bus? NOT A DAMN THING! So don't have this mindset when dealing with the opposite sex that you are more or less at their mercy - that they call all the shots. That's a lot of b.s - you are the one that can and does make it happen and if the respect isn't there, MOVE ON!

TCB,
Big Don
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You see BigDon, My major problem is the fact that I've never really been one to make the approach. I always wait for that perfect moment. Which might I add, hardly ever shows itself. I would find it awkward to ask for a girls phone # if she was on a bus, or sitting at a table etc.
 
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Mr. Robert Jordon, you are right.
If you walk up to a girl that you've never
seen before and ask her for her phone number
she will think that you are a nut and before
you know it you'll have the cops looking for
you.
 
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Nonsense. You can sit by a girl on a bus, make a friendly remark or a comment about her, the bus, the fact that your Maseratti is in the shop, anything.

Get her to laugh at a couple of your stupid jokes, and then close for the digits.

If she likes you, you'll get them. If not, then you don't have them. Which is the same as if you don't try.

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In the time of chimpanzees I was a monkey.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dee-Zy

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bump
 
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hmmm... I don't quite remember (I think he left before I first started lurking on this site 2 and a half years ago) but I'd assume that the same thing happened to him what happened to other legends, like Pook and Anti-Dump: people started to beg for their help in everything, and these legends just got tired of that.

But I think BigDon is the only one who has made himself a legend with only 76 posts... remarkable, isn't it ;)

And I agree, this is a great thread. This tip is just the way I like my tips: short, helpful and straight-to-the-point.
 
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Dee-Zy

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BD had much more then 76 posts it's jsut that he losts posts with all the updates N board changes.

BD was around back when it was the black/gold board - before I joined. He pop'd now and then when I first joined. I only got to talk to him once or twice.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MacAvoy said:
Good bump Gubby, nice find. I think its fitting giving all the snivelling about women on this site.
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Just dig back to 2000/2001, you'll find GOLD.
 
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I do that every once and a while

good sh!t back there in 2000/2001

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leftForDeadPhoenix

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spank said:
Mr. Robert Jordon, you are right.
If you walk up to a girl that you've never
seen before and ask her for her phone number
she will think that you are a nut and before
you know it you'll have the cops looking for
you.
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That's complete bullshyt! :crazy:
 
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