"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's a Man's Man's World

BigDon

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Like the old James Brown song, it is a Man's Man's World. Think about it - we call the shots. Forget all this nonsense about how woman are asking men out these days - it just doesn't happen. Which is FINE with me. I mean, we have the FREEDOM to talk to any honey we want with ABSOLUTELY NOTHING holding us back. It's our right - we are expected to do so. What if she isn't interested? SO WHAT! Then what's stopping you from talking to that hotty at the next table, or the one just down the street waiting for the bus? NOT A DAMN THING! So don't have this mindset when dealing with the opposite sex that you are more or less at their mercy - that they call all the shots. That's a lot of b.s - you are the one that can and does make it happen and if the respect isn't there, MOVE ON!

TCB,
Big Don
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Robert Jordon

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You see BigDon, My major problem is the fact that I've never really been one to make the approach. I always wait for that perfect moment. Which might I add, hardly ever shows itself. I would find it awkward to ask for a girls phone # if she was on a bus, or sitting at a table etc.
 

spank

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Mr. Robert Jordon, you are right.
If you walk up to a girl that you've never
seen before and ask her for her phone number
she will think that you are a nut and before
you know it you'll have the cops looking for
you.
 

krakhed

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Nonsense. You can sit by a girl on a bus, make a friendly remark or a comment about her, the bus, the fact that your Maseratti is in the shop, anything.

Get her to laugh at a couple of your stupid jokes, and then close for the digits.

If she likes you, you'll get them. If not, then you don't have them. Which is the same as if you don't try.

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In the time of chimpanzees I was a monkey.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dee-Zy

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bump
 

Anson

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hmmm... I don't quite remember (I think he left before I first started lurking on this site 2 and a half years ago) but I'd assume that the same thing happened to him what happened to other legends, like Pook and Anti-Dump: people started to beg for their help in everything, and these legends just got tired of that.

But I think BigDon is the only one who has made himself a legend with only 76 posts... remarkable, isn't it ;)

And I agree, this is a great thread. This tip is just the way I like my tips: short, helpful and straight-to-the-point.
 

Dee-Zy

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BD had much more then 76 posts it's jsut that he losts posts with all the updates N board changes.

BD was around back when it was the black/gold board - before I joined. He pop'd now and then when I first joined. I only got to talk to him once or twice.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gubby

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MacAvoy said:
Good bump Gubby, nice find. I think its fitting giving all the snivelling about women on this site.
Just dig back to 2000/2001, you'll find GOLD.
 

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I do that every once and a while

good sh!t back there in 2000/2001

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spank said:
Mr. Robert Jordon, you are right.
If you walk up to a girl that you've never
seen before and ask her for her phone number
she will think that you are a nut and before
you know it you'll have the cops looking for
you.
That's complete bullshyt! :crazy:
 
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