Items Your Ex Gave You

[Masculinity]

I have had friends disagree on this topic. I am curious to hear what some of you have done with things an ex has given you (pictures, cards, birthday letters, anniversary symbols), especially if you were in long-term relationships that ended.

Do you keep the things? Do you set them on fire? Do you mail them back to her? When do you do these things?

 

[SW15]

Depends on the items and depends on how it ended. If I feel that I had a good run with a particular woman and feel disappointed but not pissed, it is more likely I'll keep an item.

If I have really bad feelings over the way things ended, I'm getting rid of stuff.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I still have tons of Victoria Secret bottoms my 3yr LTR left with me. She always stuck a pair in my laptop bag as gag. They're in a box somewhere in my garage - haven't seen them in years.

 

[zekko]

If I think they're cool or useful, I definitely keep them. If they're solely sentimental, things like cards and letters, I'll usually get rid of them.

 

[SargeMaximus]

My ex gave me my queen sized mattress and stickers on my phone, a few other things too. I still keep them. Good times were good times, plus the mattress is nice

 

[Alvafe]

pretty much are they usefull?, if theya re I will use then as normal, if not I won't, in the end I wouldn't care much about it

 

[Black Widow Void]

In a large steamer trunk, I still have the 'wedding ring' from my 3rd grade 'wife', school love notes, the ID bracelet from my 8th grade girlfriend, photographs, letters etc.... It's a large trunk and also contains letters and memorabilia from friends and relatives.

Below are contents from a manila envelope dated 1986. It was my first year out of college and with no roommates. I learned quickly that women do leave things behind in attempt to mark their territory.

 

[soulforge]

I have had friends disagree on this topic. I am curious to hear what some of you have done with things an ex has given you (pictures, cards, birthday letters, anniversary symbols), especially if you were in long-term relationships that ended.

Do you keep the things? Do you set them on fire? Do you mail them back to her? When do you do these things?

You have a bin right?

A week before I nexted my ex, she borrowed £300 off me, as she was broke after losing her job.

She never returned it back to me, even though she borrowed the cash, neither did I ask for it back.

She has some of my belongings at her house too, some expensive items of clothing etc.. minor loss to be fair. Not even worth breaking NC over.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Trash unless it's useful like clothing that I wear. I'm not sentimental like that. I do still have photos, but in this age of digital images, I don't look at them often as they are on a random hard drive.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Kept.

 

[The Duke]

Most of the stuff I throw away(cards, panties, letters, etc). I do have some custom made jewelry from an exgf that I still wear.

"STUFF" really doesn't mean much to me.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I actually have a little wood box that has earrings, bracelets, berets and rings. If I find something I toss it in there.

Sometimes I am asked about lost items and I fish them out and give them back, but when I find something I never mention it unless I’m 1000% sure it belongs to someone.

I could see where there is potential for trouble if I mention a piece I found to the wrong person.

 

[Murk]

Birthday cards etc are all in a box in my storage, I should probably throw them but I'm very sentimental.

I have a £1000 mattress I'm sleeping on she bought, best sleep of my life. When you get a really nice bed its game changer.

I still wear the Birkenstocks around the house.

The most valuable thing my ex's have given me is the experience and wisdom that comes with a relationship, what to do and what not to do, that is what I cherish the most and use to make me a better version of myself. I'll never tell any woman that of course.

 

[zekko]

Below are contents from a manila envelope dated 1986. It was my first year out of college and with no roommates. I learned quickly that women do leave things behind in attempt to mark their territory.

I have to admit, you're more highly organized than I am.

 

[soulforge]

My ex actually left her dildo over at my place.. maybe I should parcel it back to her haha

 

[soulforge]

One of my kittens forgot a professional massage vibrator and I use it on other kittens now.

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Nice Google Picture

 

[Masculinity]

Interesting responses. I had a bunch of letters, cards, and pictures from a recent ex.

I do not like to live in the past, so I decided to throw everything away.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

My husband has kept things he was given: shirts, photos (some framed) but those are tucked away and not displayed around the house.

I have pieces of art and jewelry from my first husband that I keep, all have value. The art hangs in my home, the jewelry that was given to me by my ex husband will eventually be given to my children, as will various photos and so forth.

When you share children with someone its not just about you any more. Children may wish to have family pieces or photos as keepsakes etc. I still wear some of the jewelry I was given by exes, obviously not the wedding set from my ex husband, lol. But other things I still wear. My 5 year boyfriend from my 20s gave me a very pretty marquis solitare diamond surrounded with baguettes in 14K gold on a necklace. It was about a carat total weight with a large high quality center stone. I kept it all these years and gave it to my son, along with a couple of gold earrings I had lost the pair from, and he had a beautiful engagement ring made out of it using the extra gold as credit. He got a 3K ring for about $450 as a result, and his fiance adores the ring and the setting.

Eventually I will pass my old wedding set on to one of my children, not sure who yet. Same with the art my first husband gave me.

I have cards and photos as well. I'm a bit sentimental and these people at one time had a special place in my life so I've kept some photos & sentimental things as its part of my personal history.

And the things my husband has kept don't bother me at all; part of his personal history.

 

[manfrombelow]

Well, I'm the kind of guy that throws almost everything that was given to me by exes, be it a painting or a bag or anything else. Especially sentimental stuff like cards and letters - they are the first to get burned or thrown away for good. Sounds petty I know, but that's how I fvcking am.