"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I was actuallly thinking once every 2 weeks (on sunday, after the most important sarge nights/days). Like I said, I really want to keep it clean
oh, for the matter, I'm on day 4. Deleted all the orn except one movie which I have to burn...It's an instruction video for a girl, and if I get a g/f, she better see it and learn from it
chickenlegs03
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nice job oxide. that's some self-control. :box:Oxide said:
12 days done
(on day 13 right now)
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PumpNightmare
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I'm half way there! I've noticed I talk more firm to people. For example, at work there is this one part time guy (I'm part time as well) who says what we should do at times, even though we all know what we need to get done. I finaly told him to chill, and that stuff will get done when it gets done. I didn't hear any more about what we needed to do after that. Just normal BS. I dislike talking about work when I'm at work. Just BS about other stuff and time goes by faster.
First day today. 1st option= 27 may.
I've found that I can't even touch my penis... because if I do I start saying "okay, a little won't hurt" and then... who'd a thought it? (for the fiftieth time in a row). The same with porn.
The main thing is not laying in bed all sunday morning doing nothing. If I've got something to do I don't feel the urge.
LIKE STUDYING DAMMIT DX
Ok, first of all, i've been going about it wrong. The point is not to just not climax, the point is NOT TO GIVE YOURSELF PLEASURE. We must associate pleasure = fvcking a woman, not using your hand, this is why we do it.
So if any of you are doing what i was doing, (mastrubating without orgasm) stop it right now.
- when you get hard or horny, DO NOT COME CLOSE TO YOUR PENIS. just dont do it, start doing something else right away.
- DO NOT LOOK AT ANY PORN. I stumbled on a porno vid last night and almost lost it. Just do not look at any of it.
- Know that no matter how good an orgasm might feel, right after it's done you will regret it, and you would have to go back to day 1. ( sucks )
I know this is hard guys, its hard to break the conditioning. But just think about the time you didnt know what masturbation was. I sure had a lot more free time
So just relax, enjoy it, and see if you can beat my record.Good luck.
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Let's go soldiers!!!
Cranky Monk
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Day 2. Familiar territory, so it's pretty easy now. I remember my first few day 2s quickly turning into day 1s
Having something to do, and the discipline to stick to it, is key. I think a lot of us use masturbating as a form of procrastination. I certainly do... if there's a piece of work to do and I don't know where to start, my mind will chirp up with "hmmm, big job .... I'll have a quick wank first and come back to it later. Nothing wrong with a bit of pleasure, right?".
Of course that doesn't happen ... it takes a while to find just the right bit of porn ... and then I gotta take my time with it to *really* enjoy it ... and then when I pop, I gotta clean up ... and then I'll be drowsy, no point working like this .... I gotta take a nap ....
AND BANG, another successful procrastination session - I avoid doing work for another day.
The best place to stop this steamroller is AT THE START - by identifying what you're supposed to be doing, and keeping your mind on it. The further you go, the harder it gets to stop. For examples, consider these different places you can stop:
Staying focused on the job you should be doing: pretty easy.
Resisting the urge to start up the porn: still pretty easy.
Viewing porn, resisting the urge to start touching yourself: getting tricky
Once wanking, making yourself stop: difficult
At the peak, stopping yourself coming: damn near impossible!
It gets progressively harder and harder to stop. If you want to stop this taking off, the easiest place is AT THE START, before it picks up momentum.
This momentum can work FOR you as well. Instead of letting the masturbation pick up momentum, make an commitment to concentrate on your work for 10 minutes. (Just get started!) Once you've gotten into your work and have engaged your mind, you won't want to be interrupted. Porn and distractions will slide off you a lot easier. And BANG ... another successful procrastination session put off 'til later
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
chickenlegs03
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onto day 14 tomorrow (but it doesn't really matter so I figured I'd just post it now)
...starting tomorrow or saturday I'll be taking a couple (supposedly) testosterone boosting herbs (all-natural, not pheromones, no way in hell) ...nonetheless, if they even slightly bump my testosterone, it will be hella hard trying to keep up with this goal. (in case you're wondering: fenugreek, maca root, avena sativa, horny goat weed)
as for those tips oxide...
i was doing the masturbate and stop at climax thing for the first 3-4 days, but i stopped because it was stupid. it made my nuts hurt like hell too.
i also stopped watching porn a couple days ago. good point, it really does make a difference to get used to only being aroused by real women.
i think that's my main goal here.
i think the confidence, and other "effects" are just placebos. if i don't get enough sleep i'll feel like **** no matter how many days i've held off on masturbating.
the only real thing i've felt since starting this thing is aggression.
great job to everyone for sticking to this...it's awesome to be doing this with other dedicated peeps.
keep it up y'all.
PumpNightmare
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I'm half way there! I noticed something strange. For some reason I felt like watching this hour long AMV called AMV Hell Zero (for those who dont' know, it's a bunch of anime clips with songs synched together). This one particularly has a lot of "hentai" (animated porn) in it. But I wasn't aroused like I normaly am. Sure, the video is for humor, but with all that sex in it, I'm surpised I didn't get hard. It's like it doesn't effect me now...animated girls...which was half of my pr0n collection. So I'm going to take this as a positive thing.
Jippii
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1/21
Going the distance this time
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Cranky Monk
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Gotta practice this exercise:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/how-to-get-up-right-away-when-your-alarm-goes-off/
Day 1/21 tomorrow.
PumpNightmare
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I can do this!
chickenlegs03
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hell yeah
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.