It is not the girl, it is the crowd.

[architect]

Hi guys,

I have a big problem with cold approaches. I think that it does not affect me much to receive a rejection from the girl, which I want to approach. It is more the crowd around me, that freaks me out.

Somehow, I cannot ignore all the people around me and I feel like the big entertainer for them. Sadly, I feel not as a DJ entertainer more as an AFC entertainer.

I have no clue how to shut them off in my brain. Has anyone an idea?

All the posts in the DJ bible deal more with the problem of beeing to insecure because of the girl.
But for me, it is not the girl, it is the crowd.

Architect

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by PurplePimp
you need confidents

read bible you afc

:crackup:

For some strange reason I found this reply extremely hilarious.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by architect
Hi guys,

I have a big problem with cold approaches. I think that it does not affect me much to receive a rejection from the girl, which I want to approach. It is more the crowd around me, that freaks me out.

Somehow, I cannot ignore all the people around me and I feel like the big entertainer for them. Sadly, I feel not as a DJ entertainer more as an AFC entertainer.

I have no clue how to shut them off in my brain. Has anyone an idea?

All the posts in the DJ bible deal more with the problem of beeing to insecure because of the girl.
But for me, it is not the girl, it is the crowd.

Architect

It's too difficult to just try and switch off whatever insecurities you have with a crowd. Best way of overcoming it is to get used to it. Hang out in a crowd over and over again until you get used to whatever way it is you handle it. You should be tough enough to do something positive if you're not handling crowds the best you think you can. Either that or you just don't give a shyte about crowds anymore because you're just too sick and tired of entertaining them.

 

[Eccentric]

You know, I was thinking about "Its not he girl its the crowd" earlier today. Think about it...

Some HB9 is at a club with her girls. Think of all the horny douchebags without game that have approached her and failed. If they did win her over, surely she'd be with him.

Well whatever the reason, picture that HB9 at Blockbuster or drug store. She's not going to have Area 51 defenses up and running. IMO she will be much easier to approach for the simple fact that she doesnt have to worry about 100 horny guys who think they're Victoria Gottis 4th son trying to ram their **** up her skirt.

Yeah she may want that later in the evening, but thats what isolation is for, not the bar.

It could be countered with saying "well you cant be that confident then if you're not secure around other guys" or whatever other crap comes to mind.

Approach where you're comfortable.

 

[scorpio king]

Originally posted by PurplePimp
achooly no.

i serious.

he need confidents.

it is not crowd or girl it is you. you have problem with self.

:crackup:

 

[Wiesman44]

its spelled "confidence" , lol

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Originally posted by PurplePimp
you need confidents

read bible you afc

you need intelligents

read cat in the hat you fuckin slackjawed moron

 

[locarius]

This is what I did once, to get over it:

Open a set on the bus. What I did was turned around and opened a set a few seats behind me, talking loudly enough for pretty much everyone to hear. Basicly the whole bus heard me run game on this three-set until I had to get off. You will realize that:

-No one cares

OR

-They respect you for doing what 95% of the other guys would never do. The girls wish you were hitting on them, and the guys go "damn".