"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It is not the girl, it is the crowd.

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Hi guys,

I have a big problem with cold approaches. I think that it does not affect me much to receive a rejection from the girl, which I want to approach. It is more the crowd around me, that freaks me out.

Somehow, I cannot ignore all the people around me and I feel like the big entertainer for them. Sadly, I feel not as a DJ entertainer more as an AFC entertainer.

I have no clue how to shut them off in my brain. Has anyone an idea?

All the posts in the DJ bible deal more with the problem of beeing to insecure because of the girl.
But for me, it is not the girl, it is the crowd.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by PurplePimp
you need confidents

read bible you afc
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:crackup:

For some strange reason I found this reply extremely hilarious.
 
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Originally posted by architect
Hi guys,

I have a big problem with cold approaches. I think that it does not affect me much to receive a rejection from the girl, which I want to approach. It is more the crowd around me, that freaks me out.

Somehow, I cannot ignore all the people around me and I feel like the big entertainer for them. Sadly, I feel not as a DJ entertainer more as an AFC entertainer.

I have no clue how to shut them off in my brain. Has anyone an idea?

All the posts in the DJ bible deal more with the problem of beeing to insecure because of the girl.
But for me, it is not the girl, it is the crowd.

Architect
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It's too difficult to just try and switch off whatever insecurities you have with a crowd. Best way of overcoming it is to get used to it. Hang out in a crowd over and over again until you get used to whatever way it is you handle it. You should be tough enough to do something positive if you're not handling crowds the best you think you can. Either that or you just don't give a shyte about crowds anymore because you're just too sick and tired of entertaining them.
 
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You know, I was thinking about "Its not he girl its the crowd" earlier today. Think about it...

Some HB9 is at a club with her girls. Think of all the horny douchebags without game that have approached her and failed. If they did win her over, surely she'd be with him.

Well whatever the reason, picture that HB9 at Blockbuster or drug store. She's not going to have Area 51 defenses up and running. IMO she will be much easier to approach for the simple fact that she doesnt have to worry about 100 horny guys who think they're Victoria Gottis 4th son trying to ram their **** up her skirt.

Yeah she may want that later in the evening, but thats what isolation is for, not the bar.

It could be countered with saying "well you cant be that confident then if you're not secure around other guys" or whatever other crap comes to mind.

Approach where you're comfortable.
 
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Originally posted by PurplePimp
achooly no.

i serious.

he need confidents.

it is not crowd or girl it is you. you have problem with self.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is what I did once, to get over it:

Open a set on the bus. What I did was turned around and opened a set a few seats behind me, talking loudly enough for pretty much everyone to hear. Basicly the whole bus heard me run game on this three-set until I had to get off. You will realize that:

-No one cares

OR

-They respect you for doing what 95% of the other guys would never do. The girls wish you were hitting on them, and the guys go "damn".
 
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