fight club
The way that I gained 100% confidence was when I hit the worst point of my life, and then I stopped caring. I have a "I don't give a fuk attitude" I dont care what bad things happen to me because the worst has already happened. Well thats just me.
Oh yeah and one other small thing that will help you. Watch the movie fight club, it will change your life.
YES! FVCKING A!!! That right there my friend could be the first step in becomming a stronger more confident person. This movie also started me down the road to ditching my old wussy, depressed, self pitying ways! It should be part of a required course in high school for men! The key message you should focus on is this...
"You have to know... not fear but KNOW... that some day you are going to die. Its only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."
You are stuck in a world of bull$hit. Just like the other message in Fight Club - we are consumerist SLAVES. Corporations have us chasing clothes and cars, working jobs we hate so we buy $hit we don't need. What is all of this going to matter when you die? What will you regret when you are on your death bed? Death may seem far off to you, something that won't ever happen but it WILL. You could die on your way to the store, or in the shower. There was a family here in Colorado a few days ago that was killed by a piece of an overpass that collapsed and fell on their SUV - killing a man, his wife, and their little girl instantly. Bam. Gone.
It took a few years of hitting bottom for me before I finally got the message.
What you need is personal growth. But it doesn't come easy, nothing worth while does. You have to forge your soul in the fire of your will, and in the end you will either have what it takes or you won't. You will either achieve the right attitude or you will continue being depressed and lonely for the rest of your life. The choice is yours! When I was depressed I kept thinking that someone would show me the way out, that someone would say something to me or help me out somehow. That was a mistake!
The real trap for you is that when you are down in the pits of despair you can't SEE the truth - that confidence and attitude REALLY ARE what its all about! Think about it - what's the difference between George Costanza and Vin Diesel? Attitude and confidence. I can say these things with certainty because I was EXACTLY where you are now not too long ago.
I wasn't living with my parents but I was going bald at a young age (started when I was 18). It destroyed my self confidence, my self image, my whole outlook on life. I was severely depressed for many years, not just because of going bald but because of many things. Going bald was just the start of it. I used to focus entirely on looks, I COULD NOT IMAGINE that it was my own attitude holding me back. But it was.
Start right now, make a promise to yourself that you are going to STOP being negative. Being negative will make sure you die a lonely, bitter man who didn't get his full lease on life. Pay attention to your mental "self dialogue", the way you talk to yourself in your mind and start thinking differently! This is not easy and takes a while but if you are consistent and if you WANT to change badly enough it will REALLY start to turn things around for you. I can trace back all my current success to this one technique. As soon as I started thinking "I can" instead of "I can't" its been much easier.
Instead of saying "man, I'm such a dork and I live with my parents. I'll never get this Don Juan stuff down, I don't have what it takes" say something like "I have a long way to go but I can do it. I can get my own place, I can get a great job doing anything I want, I can go anywhere, be anybody I want, I can be the prize, I can have my choice of beautiful women, I can change WHO I AM and HOW I SEE THE WORLD if only I want it badly enough."
You get the idea.
Yes. GO THERE NOW. Do something to change instead of sitting behind your computer wasting another day in your life, thinking about how you want to change things but not doing quite enough. Starting that program has changed my life, much more than being here on sosuave. We talk about the things women want here on the sosuave forums all the time... looks, confidence, personality... changing your physique in a substantial way will give you more of ALL those things! You will look better. You will be stronger. You will FEEL better about yourself, have more confidence, and see other goals as reachable because you had what it took to forge a new body. For me it as almost reached a spiritual level. That's what most people don't understand about being in shape... the mind, body and soul are all connected.
The guy who made that program, Anthony Ellis, used to be a scrawny computer guy. Now he's a huge, ripped dude making lots of money helping other people achieve their dreams. He won a nice car doing it too
A few years later he met the girl of his dreams and married her.
I've been on the program now for almost 2 months... only TWO MONTHS and I can see a huge difference already. Not only in my body but my attitude and the way I feel as well. Exercise and proper diet are the BEST anti-depressants in the world! Screw medication, depressed young men should be sent to Anthony. Oh and the ladies have noticed too! The other day an hb8 said I was "hot". I haven't been called hot in my entire life! What's even better is that I don't feel desperate anymore and I didn't jump all over her after that - I had the confidence to play it cool.
I hope to see you on the skinnyguy forum! Of course, in the end its up to YOU. There is the easy path and the difficult one. The red pill and the blue one. Make your choice.
