"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It hurts
- Thread starter Bawb14
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
broken dreams
Senior Don Juan
Let it go and You will feel better.
Dont call her or anything.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
broken dreams
Senior Don Juan
Im actually going to the gym more and fixing up my place.
Getting my life back.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
just kidding.
you might as well get used to it, we all get burned at some point in our lives, most guys get burned multiple times in their lives.
theunflushables
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It happens man. There will be those one's that just get you right at the core and you might feel like life will never be worth living. You just have to solider on. Just focus on yourself for the time. Do something you've always wanted to do, start exercising, keep your mind going. The pain will start to fade, and you'll start thinking "Maybe, she wasn't that great after all."
Then one morning you wake up and you realize you've moved on, and you'll be much better for it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
guywhoneedshelp
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It's not over...it's not over...it can't be over...we had to chance to make it...it's not over...it's NOT over...it's not over...I wish that I could take it back...Bawb14 said:Its over and it had to be over, but it still hurts. Is there anyone that can say something to make it better =((
btw she really was better then the rest of them.
I understand man. Evaluate how it ended. Know that you did everything you possibly could on your end to make it work. Understand that it takes 2 people to start a relationship, but only one discordant person to end it. Understand that she may of became discordant for her own problems, not problems you caused. This may not be entirely your fault.