Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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it feels so good getting at a former one-itis

ye yeah

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Hey to all that read the "i sent a drunk "i love you" email"

just an update,it has taken me ages but i finally got her out of my life,after several arguments after she hated me for sending her that email,she provoked me into a fight on msn for no reason,and i retaliated and said "how about you **** off,before i lose any more respect for you?" and she said "fine *with one of those disappointed faces*..

and she never wrote again,im guessing trying to play on my afc-ness and get me to say sorry..

then tonight on msn,i asked her "are we are still friends?"

her-not at this moment,maybe laaater
me-so i try to be reasonable and this is what i get for my efforts?

she blocked me then

so i sent her an email saying "blocked me? ok then deal,friendships over....merry Christmas"

lol,and deleted her straight off of my myspace,dont feel any care about it whatsoever anymore, thank you s.s
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you shouldn't have asked if you were still friends or sent an email saying blocked me? it showed your one-itis and gave her the upper hand.
 

Byezbozhniy

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Ye Yeah, you're still coming across AFC. You come across as bitter and rather desperate. The way to conquer oneitis isn't to keep arguing with the girl and trying to get the upper hand. You need to stop talking about her and stop thinking about her. The only way to do this is to NEXT her and start seeing other girls.

At the moment, it seems to me that if she e-mailed you saying, "Hi, I over-reacted to your e-mail and I'm sorry. I value you as a friend and don't want to lose you," then you would be sucked right back in.
 
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