Still something that's hard for me. At some points when I feel like I have built enough rapport, I want to isolate. But how? I'm not a good liar, so when I say stuff like "hey I wanna show you something" it'll sound sh*tty. Help me with this sh*t.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Isolating
- Thread starter snowdog
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Just walk away, don't even tell her you're gonna go away. Then come back when it's convenient for you.
hey try this....
talk to her about something crazy...something fun ...
and then dare her that she won't be able to do it...
and then may be mention any of your common girl friend who'd be game for it...neg her a little (fun way though)....
works for me ....!!!
talk to her about something crazy...something fun ...
and then dare her that she won't be able to do it...
and then may be mention any of your common girl friend who'd be game for it...neg her a little (fun way though)....
works for me ....!!!
Magma
Senior Don Juan
Here's a technique that works for me. I am going to assume you talking about a club/bar setting.
If there is music playing, I will take her by the hand and give her a little spin a la jitterbug style. What I am trying to do is get her back turned to the rest of the bar/club so that she is focusing on me, and me only. So I will spin with her and reposition my own body if need be to achieve this.
Basically, I am slyly repositioning our bodies so that my back is literally against the wall while she faces me and her back is to the rest of the club. It takes her attention and places it squarely on me instead of other guys and the surrounding environment. It isolates, initiates kino, and builds attraction all in one shot. A powerful move indeed.
If there is music playing, I will take her by the hand and give her a little spin a la jitterbug style. What I am trying to do is get her back turned to the rest of the bar/club so that she is focusing on me, and me only. So I will spin with her and reposition my own body if need be to achieve this.
Basically, I am slyly repositioning our bodies so that my back is literally against the wall while she faces me and her back is to the rest of the club. It takes her attention and places it squarely on me instead of other guys and the surrounding environment. It isolates, initiates kino, and builds attraction all in one shot. A powerful move indeed.
Magma
Senior Don Juan
double post
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but once she's ready to be isolated I don't think it matters much what you say. Depending on how drunk I am, I might just spit out, "Hey...." Then grab her hand and go in for the slow smoochies on the back of her neck.
My roommate is right next to me and that prick just says suck my ****. haha
My roommate is right next to me and that prick just says suck my ****. haha
Oh and getting her there--I don't think I've said it like that since I was in high school cause it feels awkward. I'd at least switch it around to "so show me the place" or "how about a tour"... anything lame works if the mood is set.
Said what like that? You mean like 'hey i gonna show you something'? I don't understand....I don't think I've said it like that since I was in high school cause it feels awkward.