"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is this true about guys?

udontknowme

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Is it true that if a girl tells a guy that she thinks there isnt a connection after they go out, and the guy says he still wants to be friends, that the guy still kinda likes the girl?
I think this guy still likes me, lol, even after i told him i wasnt really interested. He always talks to me online, makes sexual jokes sometimes, used to text me alot, calls sometimes ( i have never called him once), leaves voice mails, and then he got mad when i didnt return his calls and told me he wasnt gunna call anymore, and still did, lol, he made up a nick name for me, i know - gay- lol, keeps asking me to hang out, or when we're gunna hang out, etc, etc. It is obvious that he still wants to keep in contact with me.
But do u think he wants to be friends or more? Like i said before, do guys normally want to remain friends after they hear the news that the girl isnt really interested??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ER!C L!VE

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He's thinks he has a chance because you still talk with him. He's not looking for a friend. He thinks he can turn you into his girlfriend or will get to have sex with you in the future.

Stop talking with him and eventually he'll get the hint. Age and inexperience on his part probably plays a big role in your situation. Most inexperienced younger guys have no clue when a girl isn't interested - especially when she still talks to him.
 

Boner da Stoner

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call him a bitoch! insult him whenver you think you should, laugh at him, make him realize he's not giving you enoiuh money yet!!!
 

Maverick001

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Originally posted by udontknowme
Is it true that if a girl tells a guy that she thinks there isnt a connection after they go out, and the guy says he still wants to be friends, that the guy still kinda likes the girl?
I think this guy still likes me, lol, even after i told him i wasnt really interested. He always talks to me online, makes sexual jokes sometimes, used to text me alot, calls sometimes ( i have never called him once), leaves voice mails, and then he got mad when i didnt return his calls and told me he wasnt gunna call anymore, and still did, lol, he made up a nick name for me, i know - gay- lol, keeps asking me to hang out, or when we're gunna hang out, etc, etc. It is obvious that he still wants to keep in contact with me.
But do u think he wants to be friends or more? Like i said before, do guys normally want to remain friends after they hear the news that the girl isnt really interested??
Tell him to join the board, we`ll straighten him out.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bill

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He's your puppy, and like said previously he thinks he still has a chance with you. However, in all logic, you don't feel anything for this guy (especially since he's always in your face).

Tell him to come here, he'll see the light.
Peace.

-Bill
 

DJ4Real

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This guy is pathetic. Pathetic like OJ simpson attempting to sing gospel as an appeal to get into heaven!

Send that tenderfoot guy over here.

The guy doesn't want to be friends.
Just give him a fortune cookie with this website address in it.
 

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Originally posted by udontknowme
Is it true that if a girl tells a guy that she thinks there isnt a connection after they go out, and the guy says he still wants to be friends, that the guy still kinda likes the girl?
I think this guy still likes me, lol, even after i told him i wasnt really interested. He always talks to me online, makes sexual jokes sometimes, used to text me alot, calls sometimes ( i have never called him once), leaves voice mails, and then he got mad when i didnt return his calls and told me he wasnt gunna call anymore, and still did, lol, he made up a nick name for me, i know - gay- lol, keeps asking me to hang out, or when we're gunna hang out, etc, etc. It is obvious that he still wants to keep in contact with me.
But do u think he wants to be friends or more? Like i said before, do guys normally want to remain friends after they hear the news that the girl isnt really interested??
u type too much.. lol
we need some information about you.. preferrably your likes, dislikes, a photo profile..
After that we'll be able to throughly answer your question to its fullest potentency.. :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thederekeffect1

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I just have one question. Why is it that everytime you have girl problems, you come here? Do we look like your girlfriends to you? Or are you just so into us that you keep asking for our attention by posting your problems?
 
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