Also, any improvement tips would be appreciated. And religion is one thing I can't skimp on...I'm entering ministry as a career in a few years, so the 'fun' is over, and I can date all I want, but f-closes are off limits until marriage.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is this too jaded for an online personal ad?
- Thread starter DCC
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Did not like this part at all. No need to verbalize that you are nice or that you are not a doormat. Just let the profile speak that for itself.DCC said:
Also, instead of saying "I am this" and "I am that", let your personality show in other ways besides outright saying attributes about yourself. Just an opinion though.
Id like to hear what you and others think?
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Master Don Juan
I think it was ok.
Not bad. I might work on the "I am a nice guy" wording a little bit, to make it a little bit funnier and less like you are a damaged reformed nice guy, lol!
Not bad. I might work on the "I am a nice guy" wording a little bit, to make it a little bit funnier and less like you are a damaged reformed nice guy, lol!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It sounds a like a list of generic qualities, plus I think you're revealing way too much about yourself. You need to retain an element of mystery.
As it stands, I also think you appear like you're seeking approval. I would suggest taking the position of the selector and talk more about what you are looking for in a woman and maybe even what traits you don't like to see. The final paragraph is perfect, but maybe you can expand on it a bit more.
As it stands, I also think you appear like you're seeking approval. I would suggest taking the position of the selector and talk more about what you are looking for in a woman and maybe even what traits you don't like to see. The final paragraph is perfect, but maybe you can expand on it a bit more.
I think the other problem with this profile is that it doesn't really say anything about you, I get no sense of what you are into or what your style is
To be fair, this is the main problem with dating profiles in general , they are mostly really quite bland and generic. Girls profiles are actually usually worse than dudes in this regard also. Very very few profiles are interesting, never mind irreverent, witty, effusive or individual in any way
To be fair, this is the main problem with dating profiles in general , they are mostly really quite bland and generic. Girls profiles are actually usually worse than dudes in this regard also. Very very few profiles are interesting, never mind irreverent, witty, effusive or individual in any way