"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this odd or is it just me?

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I just got back from Mexico with a few of my girlfriends a yesterday. While there a guy I'm casually seeing asked me when I would be coming back home (didn't even tell him I was leaving the country). I told him tomorrow (yesterday). The next day I posted on Snapchat that it 'felt good to be home". Not too long after that I saw that he looked at my snap then he contacted me asking if I behaved myself. I said I might have *smirk face*. Then he said good girl and that was it.

Is this odd or is it just me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why are we giving advice to a female on a mens dating site?

Im gonna go write to Cosmo or some shít and see how helpful they are.
 
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Yewki said:
If you want him to follow through, stop being coy and show him more interest. Otherwise you'll just have to... keep waiting.

Anything else?
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I'm not sure. I'm starting to think he's just keeping me as on option/backburner.

He finally came out and asked about dinner and when I would be free. I said starting Tuesday on (traveling for work) and all he said was, "sounds good". The heck?
 
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ritapita20 said:
I'm not sure. I'm starting to think he's just keeping me as on option/backburner.

He finally came out and asked about dinner and when I would be free. I said starting Tuesday on (traveling for work) and all he said was, "sounds good". The heck?
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He thinks you are the one and is having a hard time mustering up the courage
to express this to you.

Show up at his door with a bottle of MacAllan whiskey and a rose between your
teeth and tell him it's time for the fireworks to begin.
 
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He wants to fcuk you

If I pulled that sexual teasing asking if you were a naughty girl, I would've followed it up with saying, hey I'm free x day, let's grab supper.

Both of you are unsure and have 1 foot in and 1 out
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CMNILS87 said:
He wants to fcuk you

If I pulled that sexual teasing asking if you were a naughty girl, I would've followed it up with saying, hey I'm free x day, let's grab supper.

Both of you are unsure and have 1 foot in and 1 out
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Right? That's what I was expecting to be honest lol that's why I teased back. We already slept together so I figured all this other stuff would be easy peasy for him to do. I feel like the hard part is over with.
 
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ritapita20 said:
Right? That's what I was expecting to be honest lol that's why I teased back. We already slept together so I figured all this other stuff would be easy peasy for him to do. I feel like the hard part is over with.
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Ok so you said you were seeing somebody, you didn't say sex. Ask him to do supper at home and get takeout or cook. Problem solved, less stress. You're welcome
 
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