"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this odd or is it just me?

ritapita20

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I just got back from Mexico with a few of my girlfriends a yesterday. While there a guy I'm casually seeing asked me when I would be coming back home (didn't even tell him I was leaving the country). I told him tomorrow (yesterday). The next day I posted on Snapchat that it 'felt good to be home". Not too long after that I saw that he looked at my snap then he contacted me asking if I behaved myself. I said I might have *smirk face*. Then he said good girl and that was it.

Is this odd or is it just me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why are we giving advice to a female on a mens dating site?

Im gonna go write to Cosmo or some shít and see how helpful they are.
 

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If you want him to follow through, stop being coy and show him more interest. Otherwise you'll just have to... keep waiting.

Anything else?

I'm not sure. I'm starting to think he's just keeping me as on option/backburner.

He finally came out and asked about dinner and when I would be free. I said starting Tuesday on (traveling for work) and all he said was, "sounds good". The heck?
 

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I'm not sure. I'm starting to think he's just keeping me as on option/backburner.

He finally came out and asked about dinner and when I would be free. I said starting Tuesday on (traveling for work) and all he said was, "sounds good". The heck?
He thinks you are the one and is having a hard time mustering up the courage
to express this to you.

Show up at his door with a bottle of MacAllan whiskey and a rose between your
teeth and tell him it's time for the fireworks to begin.
 

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He wants to fcuk you

If I pulled that sexual teasing asking if you were a naughty girl, I would've followed it up with saying, hey I'm free x day, let's grab supper.

Both of you are unsure and have 1 foot in and 1 out
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ritapita20

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He wants to fcuk you

If I pulled that sexual teasing asking if you were a naughty girl, I would've followed it up with saying, hey I'm free x day, let's grab supper.

Both of you are unsure and have 1 foot in and 1 out
Right? That's what I was expecting to be honest lol that's why I teased back. We already slept together so I figured all this other stuff would be easy peasy for him to do. I feel like the hard part is over with.
 

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Right? That's what I was expecting to be honest lol that's why I teased back. We already slept together so I figured all this other stuff would be easy peasy for him to do. I feel like the hard part is over with.
Ok so you said you were seeing somebody, you didn't say sex. Ask him to do supper at home and get takeout or cook. Problem solved, less stress. You're welcome
 
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