What would you guys do if you were not getting any from the woman of your dreams, but you met a woman you were sexually attracted to and thought you may be able to have sex with her? If she was a single mom, not college educated, frankly not a lot in common with her, but there was sexual chemistry, and when you saw her you wanted to screw her brains out. If you thought you had a chance with this woman would you pursue it? What if someone better comes along(same sexual chemistry but more long term compatibility) while you are screwing her brains out?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Is This Morally Okay?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
???StevenR said:What would you guys do if you were not getting any from the woman of your dreams, but you met a woman you were sexually attracted to and thought you may be able to have sex with her? If she was a single mom, not college educated, frankly not a lot in common with her, but there was sexual chemistry, and when you saw her you wanted to screw her brains out. If you thought you had a chance with this woman would you pursue it? What if someone better comes along(same sexual chemistry but more long term compatibility) while you are screwing her brains out?
okay, maybe "ethically" would have been a better term than morally. Generally I don't sleep with women unless I think there is relationship potential. However, I am not getting any because at present the kind of women I am interested in for marriage are out of my league, they generally don't write back to me on the dating site I am on probably because they think I am too fat.
I don't want to suffer with involuntary celibacy because I am horny and I want sex. Unfortunately the only way to get it right now is with women I know I would not be interested in long term but I still think are hot. Kinda like I would never marry a stripper but my body still wants to have sex with her.
I don't want to suffer with involuntary celibacy because I am horny and I want sex. Unfortunately the only way to get it right now is with women I know I would not be interested in long term but I still think are hot. Kinda like I would never marry a stripper but my body still wants to have sex with her.
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
dude what kind of place do you think this is?.....OF course we advocate sleeping with women who you find hot. You need to get rid of the idea that you need to only sleep with the women of your dreams. Because if you don't fuuck enough "hot wrong ones" how will you know when you find the right one. Maybe in hollywood movies you can hold off celibacy for that "oh so special dream girl" but in reality you need to think about what you want.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I suppose this is very AFC for me to admit, but I tend to get emotionally attached to women I sleep with, much like a girl does. Granted I have only slept with three women in my life total. At the same time I am horny like a guy is. It has nothing to do with society more than fear of becoming emotionally attached and falling in love with someone who may not be the best person for me. I wish I didn't get attached to the women I sleep with, then life would be so much easier.
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Thats bullsh!t talk, how can she be "the woman of your dreams" if your not getting any?StevenR said:What would you guys do if you were not getting any from the woman of your dreams?
Jesus wept, thats called the highs and lows of "life" mate, get amongst it you stalling steve. You get lucky with the right bird = Win. You get your heart ripped out = Win, yes thats right WIN. Careful not to rip her heart out though, sure its only temporary with chicks but its still a = Lose.StevenR said:It has nothing to do with society more than fear of becoming emotionally attached and falling in love with someone who may not be the best person for me. I wish I didn't get attached to the women I sleep with, then life would be so much easier.
Get busy you muppet.
"Morally or ethically ok"..Pfftt lol.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
Haha this is great. It is possible to have your cake, and eat it too.Alphamale1821 said:Because if you don't fuuck enough "hot wrong ones" how will you know when you find the right one.
To the OP: it depeneds what your morals are! But sex is a basic human need, if your body is telling you that you need it, go get her. Use protection and be smart, try to get out of that relationship-only frame.
If your in a relationship that the other person thinks is exclusive, then it is morally wrong because you are breaking your word. If your not in an exclusive relationship, then go for it.
It seems as though you have already answered your own question when you admit to getting emotionally attached to women you sleep with and that this woman has nothing compatible with you except sexual chemistry.
It seems as though you have already answered your own question when you admit to getting emotionally attached to women you sleep with and that this woman has nothing compatible with you except sexual chemistry.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mate, you're 34 and asking questions about whether it's alright to sleep with a hot woman whilst you have a crush on another hot woman?? wtf man, where have you BEEN all your life?
And what's this marriage thing all about, you probably don't even know that woman very well, you don't "consider someone for marriage" before you've even slept with them.
I don't even understand where morals or ethics come into this. You have a crush on a woman...but you're not getting any off her...so you wanna fvck someone else...where are morals or ethics even involved in this??
And what's this marriage thing all about, you probably don't even know that woman very well, you don't "consider someone for marriage" before you've even slept with them.
I don't even understand where morals or ethics come into this. You have a crush on a woman...but you're not getting any off her...so you wanna fvck someone else...where are morals or ethics even involved in this??
I'm going to have to waive the false premise flag on this one. While one can rationalize claims into a structure that is valid, it does not mean that they are sound. The distinction to be made is that some arguments use rational understanding and are false, while other use rational understanding and are true. Thus, it follows that just because an argument uses rational processes does not mean that it is true. The more popular form of argumentation is deductive, which can be disproved by having an unwarranted inference or a false premise, which is what your statement is.Alle_Gory said:Spoiler: Everything is morally okay after you it rationalize long enough.
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the woman of your dream's won't have sex with you?!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.