"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is this mean?

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alright, there is this girl that I work with. She's about an 8. She's into me, majorly... There has been a ton of kino between her and myself... the thing is that she has a kid, and I fairly recently put that on my "Denied" list. Ok... so now I keep doing it, I stopped with the kino, but I still keep up some of the C/F with her(like today there was a commercial about genital herpes on the TV and I asked if she needs to go to the doctor for some of that medacine)
MY PROBLEM IS: how do I stop the progression with her without making myself look like a wussie? I'm thinking keep it up and just tease her like crazy... that will help me keep my image and show that I have the power to tease. What do you think?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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do you see clint eastwood being ****y and funny all the time with his b1tches?

there's no faster way to friendszone than a guy that acts like a court jester 24/7.
 
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but I still keep up some of the C/F with her(like today there was a commercial about genital herpes on the TV and I asked if she needs to go to the doctor for some of that medacine)
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For our not so astute readers. This is NOT ****y and Funny.

I don't quite understand your problem? What progression are you talking about. Is it hard work teasing her? If you want to stay friends then just keep doing what you are doing and not ask her out or kiss her etc.

You don't need to tease to show dominance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm seriously amazed at how many people don't have the common sense to differentiate between C&F / neghits and insults. It's been explained so many times, and people still post threads about it, pat themselves on the back even when they totally missed the whole point.
 
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Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
He may as well have just outright called her a hor. :rolleyes:
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A dirty filty one at that... C/F is an artform and neghits are for specific instances. They can be extremely hazardous in the wrong hands.
 
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You are correct, it can really backfire, neghits should especially be used sparingly, I dispense with them altogether with people whom I've already established a repor.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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