"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this is a b**ch shield?

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Hi all. I'm new to posting in the discussion forum :wave:
Um, so here goes. I started talking to a girl who is a friend of a friend about a month or so ago. Did c&f, she was cool with me, always laughed and smiled at the stuff I said etc. Got her number without hassle as well.
A week after this, she didn't wanna talk to me, was giving me the cold shoulder, wouldn't warm up to my interactions. Confused, I decided to tell her how I feel and call her on her sudden change of behaviour (on facebook. I know, I know, but she didn't wanna talk to me or accept my calls). Next thing, she says I'm rude! What?! Most of my friends who I've spoken to about this say she's crazy and I should leave her alone. Would be easy if we weren't studying the same course (Information technology).
This week (three weeks after the incident), I wish to make right with this chick. Find out where I went wrong (if I did) and just find closure. Is this a good move? Should I just leave her alone?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Called her out on Facebook as in you made a public comment about it? God I hope not...
 

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*SPHECTACULAR* said:
I wish to make right with this chick. Find out where I went wrong (if I did) and just find closure. Is this a good move?
No, it never is.

Unfortunately when you get to this point, moving forward and NEXT is the only option available.
 

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No, it never is.

Unfortunately when you get to this point, moving forward and NEXT is the only option available.
^This. There is no closure. Just find your nearest exit and eject.

Being that she is probably is crazy, any attempt to make things right (despite your good intentions) will be seen (by her) as creepy, stalking, and harrassing.

Even if she isn't crazy, she will still likely view any attempt to make things right in a negative light as listed above.

Just let it go.

To answers your title question, no it's not a b*tch shield. B*tch shields are usually limited to when you first approach a girl (or group of girls) that you haven't met before.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No point leaving her alone you have NOTHING to lose. She's definitely crazy, I mean come on, a girl taking IT? Got to be a psycho lol!

You may as well just ask her why she suddenly went cold on you for no reason. Really what do you have to lose? If you just leave her alone you'll never hear from her again anyway, so yeah, talk to her for sure.
 

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Thanks for the advice gents. I've gotten over that chick now. Realised that she wasn't worth my time or energy anymore. :woo: Que "On to The Next One" by Jay-Z ft Swizz Beatz! *bopping my head* :rock:
 
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