Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wow. Maybe he's taking corticosteroids for some medical issue. The same thing happened to Jerry Lewis when he was taking them.taiyuu_otoko said:Speaking of land whales, WTF happened to Kissinger? When did he bloat up so much?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
HAHA! So true, Taiyuu.taiyuu_otoko said:The male equivalent of a girl getting fatter after she gets married would be a guying getting broker and broker.
"I don't understand it. He was making $350K a year when we got married. Now he's just TOTALLY let himself go. Now he just mows lawns in the neighborhood."
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?evan12 said:Yes, I noticed this trend and the reason women no longer marry in the prime of their youth, so you cant expect a 30 year old bride to be in shape and hot like before .
I am 44 and still in more than descent shape, it amazes me how many people believe that once they hit 30 it is an excuse to let themselves go, it is so ingrained into people's social conditioning.mrRuckus said:Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?