You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wow. Maybe he's taking corticosteroids for some medical issue. The same thing happened to Jerry Lewis when he was taking them.taiyuu_otoko said:Speaking of land whales, WTF happened to Kissinger? When did he bloat up so much?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
HAHA! So true, Taiyuu.taiyuu_otoko said:The male equivalent of a girl getting fatter after she gets married would be a guying getting broker and broker.
"I don't understand it. He was making $350K a year when we got married. Now he's just TOTALLY let himself go. Now he just mows lawns in the neighborhood."
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?evan12 said:Yes, I noticed this trend and the reason women no longer marry in the prime of their youth, so you cant expect a 30 year old bride to be in shape and hot like before .
I am 44 and still in more than descent shape, it amazes me how many people believe that once they hit 30 it is an excuse to let themselves go, it is so ingrained into people's social conditioning.mrRuckus said:Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?