You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow. Maybe he's taking corticosteroids for some medical issue. The same thing happened to Jerry Lewis when he was taking them.taiyuu_otoko said:Speaking of land whales, WTF happened to Kissinger? When did he bloat up so much?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
HAHA! So true, Taiyuu.taiyuu_otoko said:The male equivalent of a girl getting fatter after she gets married would be a guying getting broker and broker.
"I don't understand it. He was making $350K a year when we got married. Now he's just TOTALLY let himself go. Now he just mows lawns in the neighborhood."
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?evan12 said:Yes, I noticed this trend and the reason women no longer marry in the prime of their youth, so you cant expect a 30 year old bride to be in shape and hot like before .
I am 44 and still in more than descent shape, it amazes me how many people believe that once they hit 30 it is an excuse to let themselves go, it is so ingrained into people's social conditioning.mrRuckus said:Getting old automatically makes you out of shape? Weird, I'm 34 and still not fat. Do men magically get fat at 35 and women at 30?