"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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toddC

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Okay, so the girl of my dreams finally has started to hang out with me. We chilled a few weeks ago a few times but sicne hten we just chilled every once in a while. Then this weekend came and she was text messaging me like crazy, both firday and saturday. She met me at this party but she ended up leaving out before I got to talk to her for too long. Then on Saturday night, she started texting and calling again and i was liek alright lets chill and then finally I didn't make plans with her I kinda left her hanging...Is this good cause now she'll start beingliek who would he rather hang out with I gotta get him to hang with me. or is this a bad thing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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immrtlwun

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It sounds like its going well. It's good that you aren't hanging out all the time, otherwise one of the two of you would get bored of the other. It's also good that you are showing her that you have other things going on in your life. Keep it up and keep her looking forward to hanging out with you.
 

toddC

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yea but i was mostly pointing out the part that i kinda ditched her last nite.
 

DJ4Real

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Being unavailable...and ditching someone are different.....if you plan on being unavailable, just tell her you have plans before hand...

I think it was a bad thing.
 
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