Is this girl leading me on?

[Sgthaytham]

This is rather annoying.

I met her last summer, we had this “fling” and then another in January when I went to this New Year’s Party she invited me to.

Anyway, so since then she’ll be in touch every couple of weeks or so: usually calls me via FaceBook.

From what I know, she ha a boyfriend now, so I’ve been quietly ignoring her calls and messages. Yet, she still tries to get in touch?

Is this normal?

 

[marmel75]

This is rather annoying.

I met her last summer, we had this “fling” and then another in January when I went to this New Year’s Party she invited me to.

Anyway, so since then she’ll be in touch every couple of weeks or so: usually calls me via FaceBook.

From what I know, she ha a boyfriend now, so I’ve been quietly ignoring her calls and messages. Yet, she still tries to get in touch?

Is this normal?

Does she live in the same area? She is seeking attention so yeah its normal. Ask her out and if she refuses then go NC for good. This one is simply wasting your time it looks like.

 

[logicallefty]

She is trying to solicit you for the Orbiter's Club. No reason to join this club has no benefits for you what so ever.

 

[The Duke]

This is what it really boils down too....you give a woman attention, she gives you sex. If you aren't getting sex then she is using you/leading you on/recruiting you for an orbiter position. Don't be one of those guys.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

I'm not really seeing a problem. Don't bother worrying about what you've "heard". Always judge by actions.

You hear she has a boyfriend yet you recently had a fling with her and she's calling you? So far so good. The "boyfriend" thing you heard could be false rumor, or they might not be "together" - could just be friends, friends with benefits or whatever. You just don't know so you shouldn't care.

Just like marmel75 said, you respond to her contacting you by asking her out. This forces her to lay her cards on the table about what she wants. Either she wants to see you, or she wants something else like attention. If her response is ANYTHING other than a yes, then she isn't interested in you right now. If it's a yes, then she is so go ahead and see her.

The only time I let word of a "boyfriend" influence my actions is if I hit on a girl and SHE (not her girlfriend she's standing there with, but HER directly from her mouth) says she has a boyfriend. I'll usually reply with something funny and then move on.

 

[Serenity]

You don't know until you've tried finding out, you won't find out unless you talk to her and see where it leads. You don't instantly become an orbiter if you reply, only if you keep replying when it's obvious she's leading you on.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

This is what it really boils down too....you give a woman attention, she gives you sex. If you aren't getting sex then she is using you/leading you on/recruiting you for an orbiter position. Don't be one of those guys.

You think they give out sex just for "attention?"

 

[Stallionstud]

You think they give out sex just for "attention?"

I have seen it be the bait, yes

 

[Spaz]

She is trying to solicit you for the Orbiter's Club. No reason to join this club has no benefits for you what so ever.

Haha

This made me choke on my breakfast tea...

Good one

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I have seen it be the bait, yes

Well you gotta give something to get sex. If all she wants is attention, that seems like a bargain.

 

[The Duke]

You think they give out sex just for "attention?"

The most damaged females definitely do.

All females use sex in some form to get attention.

 

[guru1000]

Well you gotta give something to get sex. If all she wants is attention, that seems like a bargain.

Not really. If you have, for example, 10 girls vying for your attention, then the value of your attention holds significant currency; hence, quid pro quo.

The goal is make your attention worth something. You do this through abundance.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

The most damaged females definitely do.

All females use sex in some form to get attention.

I don't think "attention" is their end goal.

 

[machoMax]

She is trying to solicit you for the Orbiter's Club. No reason to join this club has no benefits for you what so ever.

Well, I would say the same thing

 

[Spidah]

Why do so many of you men keep letting bitches lead you?

You set the program and the bytch either gets in line or gets dropped. Simple and low stress.