"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This is rather annoying.

I met her last summer, we had this “fling” and then another in January when I went to this New Year’s Party she invited me to.

Anyway, so since then she’ll be in touch every couple of weeks or so: usually calls me via FaceBook.

From what I know, she ha a boyfriend now, so I’ve been quietly ignoring her calls and messages. Yet, she still tries to get in touch?

Is this normal?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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marmel75

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Sgthaytham said:
This is rather annoying.

I met her last summer, we had this “fling” and then another in January when I went to this New Year’s Party she invited me to.

Anyway, so since then she’ll be in touch every couple of weeks or so: usually calls me via FaceBook.

From what I know, she ha a boyfriend now, so I’ve been quietly ignoring her calls and messages. Yet, she still tries to get in touch?

Is this normal?
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Does she live in the same area? She is seeking attention so yeah its normal. Ask her out and if she refuses then go NC for good. This one is simply wasting your time it looks like.
 
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She is trying to solicit you for the Orbiter's Club. No reason to join this club has no benefits for you what so ever.
 
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This is what it really boils down too....you give a woman attention, she gives you sex. If you aren't getting sex then she is using you/leading you on/recruiting you for an orbiter position. Don't be one of those guys.
 
oldmanofthesea

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I'm not really seeing a problem. Don't bother worrying about what you've "heard". Always judge by actions.

You hear she has a boyfriend yet you recently had a fling with her and she's calling you? So far so good. The "boyfriend" thing you heard could be false rumor, or they might not be "together" - could just be friends, friends with benefits or whatever. You just don't know so you shouldn't care.

Just like marmel75 said, you respond to her contacting you by asking her out. This forces her to lay her cards on the table about what she wants. Either she wants to see you, or she wants something else like attention. If her response is ANYTHING other than a yes, then she isn't interested in you right now. If it's a yes, then she is so go ahead and see her.

The only time I let word of a "boyfriend" influence my actions is if I hit on a girl and SHE (not her girlfriend she's standing there with, but HER directly from her mouth) says she has a boyfriend. I'll usually reply with something funny and then move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You don't know until you've tried finding out, you won't find out unless you talk to her and see where it leads. You don't instantly become an orbiter if you reply, only if you keep replying when it's obvious she's leading you on.
 
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Howiestern said:
This is what it really boils down too....you give a woman attention, she gives you sex. If you aren't getting sex then she is using you/leading you on/recruiting you for an orbiter position. Don't be one of those guys.
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You think they give out sex just for "attention?"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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guru1000

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RichardTheFrog said:
Well you gotta give something to get sex. If all she wants is attention, that seems like a bargain.
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Not really. If you have, for example, 10 girls vying for your attention, then the value of your attention holds significant currency; hence, quid pro quo.

The goal is make your attention worth something. You do this through abundance.
 
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Why do so many of you men keep letting bitches lead you?

You set the program and the bytch either gets in line or gets dropped. Simple and low stress.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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