this is rare sitautation i go to a super small school. this really hot girl just came here and ive talked to her at school and she seems to be flirting a bit with me (and only me it appears) (in fact i havent even seen any other guys approach her in school in the past 3 days since she first came here). i fb messaged her last night and she hasnt replied to me back. (it says she hasnt been active in 12 hours and she told me she got her phone taken away). is she just leading me on/ bull****ting me or is this legit? btw she has a boyfriend but both him and her are younger than me (im junior she sophomore) please give me some advice? and also i know i have probably not been friendzoned cuz i've flirted with her a bunch and she a little back and im not a "mr nice guy" also if she does text me back how long should i wait to reply since its already been nearly 20 hours? anyway i really think i have a good shot of getting with this girl despite what she is doing/ is it worth going for it and asking her to hang out with me? what should i do now?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
is this girl leading me on?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
it's far too early to tell, and if you worry and overanalyze as much as you do here, you'll mess it up, so just relax, and don't overreact to anything minor
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Dude, You know that she's hot and she has all those powers to turn men on. and BTW, if she texts you back, don't take too long to text back, she might just loose interest and just go to sleep instead of texting you. also, I'm not saying that you should reply right away. you should totally ask her to hang out with you, and if she ditches you, it's time to stop.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.